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Husbands
love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself
for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by
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First! Healing and Well Being Ebook - Living up to Your Full Potential Ebook - Living up to Your Full PotentialHaving The Right Attitude Ebook - Living up to Your Full Potential Godly Foundation Ebook - How To Be Free and Achieve True Marital Happiness Spiritual Headship Learning Forgiveness
Forgiveness Ebook - Forgiveness
in Marriage Principled Acts of Love Pray For Your Wife Bonus Article - How Should We Pray? Communication and Self Expression Intimacy and Sex Healing From Unfaithfulness 1. Take
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In Society we have been taught to
love with dissimulation, which is a greedy and lustful kind of love.
This is why we think we aren't in love with our wives any more. (Romans 12:9) and What you can do. Don't Control - Demand - Manipulate Why would you feel the need to control, and or otherwise manipulate your wife? Something is amiss when a husband has to abuse his wife to get his way. Go back to the personal healing articles and read through them. Study the scriptures references in those articles. Be the godly and loving man that God created you to be FIRST...and then you will not feel self-doubting about who you are and then you can not be so worried about what your wife is or is not doing. Any man who has to control his wife to get his way is not praying for his marriage. Understand that when you control, demand, or manipulate to get your way, it will actually push her further away from you. If you want your marriage restored, you need to take responsibility for your actions! What actions can you use instead of control, demand, and manipulate? How about this: Control - change this action to powerless (powerless to control
another) Spiritual Headship God made man to be the spiritual leader over his family. This standard has not changed 2000 years later. The most important aspect of a mans responsibility to his wife and family is to "be the man of the house" by taking the lead in a loving and gentle way. Guide your family in the Word of God. Discipline your children in the ways of the Lord and Love your wife as Christ loves His TRUE church - His people. If you are having a difficult time guiding your home spiritually, maybe you are just trying too hard. Go back to the written materials and study them. Pray that God give you the guidance you need to be the loving spiritual leader of your home. Sometimes when we try too hard or when we need everything to be perfect, it becomes too stressful. Take a breather, give it to God - pray about it, and God WILL give you the clear guidance you need. Prayer I can not underestimate the value of prayer. Praying with the woman you married brings you together in thoughts, ideas, and spirituality. Not only does it give you the spiritual connection that you need to be at peace with God but it builds up your faith in Him in every way! Pick a time each evening before dinner or at bedtime to spend thirty minutes in peaceful oneness and solitude with the woman you married. Use fifteen minutes of that time reading from the bible or praying together. spend the rest of that time expressing yourself to your wife. Tell her how your day went - tell her how much you appreciate her - talk to her, be open and honest because that is what will help to bring you closer together. She wants to be there for you. Let her do her job as your wife. Principled actions of love vs. feelings of love What is the difference. Well, lets say you had a bad day at work and you come home hungry, tired, and cranky, and you find your wife watching TV and there is nothing to eat. What are you going to do? How will you react? Let's say you want to make love to your wife but she keeps rejecting you night after night. What are you going to do? How will you react? both of these issues as well as numerous others takes wisdom and careful consideration on how to deal with them. It is certainly not right what the wife is doing or not doing in the above scenarios, but why is she not cooking her husband a meal and why is she rejecting her husband sexually? She needs inner healing - you need inner healing, but this is about you now, so let's focus on your part in the marriage. ok? Instead of getting angry with her or sulking in silence, communicate with her and tell her "how you feel." Talking works wonders in marriage. We need to take responsibility for our own actions, not someone esle's. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a MUST for a healthy marriage. Marriage cannot be re-establish until you forgive. You can not heal the demons within until you forgive. Let go of the resentment and forgive! forgiveness is for your own healing, because it is only after you forgive that you can love properly. We do not have the power to forgive on our own, it is something supernatural and comes from God. If you are having a difficult time forgiving your wife, you must ask God to help you. Pray every day that God give you the strength to give up your resentment and forgive so you too may be forgiven. Read the Forgiveness in Marriage ebook. Read through some of the articles on forgiveness and answer the questions at the bottom. You Can Forgive! Respect and Appreciation You need to humbly pray about this and ask God to help you with this. Respect can be a difficult thing to do, especially if we are not being respected by our wife in our home. But be the one to GIVE IN FOR THE SAKE OF THE MARRIAGE. Base your marriage upon the principle of respect. If the man of the house would first be loving and respectful, even if his wife is naggy and disrespectful sometimes, it will get the woman of the house to recognize her wrong actions. Talk to your wife and let her know, you want to and will do your best to respect her, and would like to be respected in return. Learn good principled habits for your marriage and God will help you... if you keep Him at the forefront of your marriage. "The most beneficial way to handle marital issues is from the foundation of the Creator of marriage. No one cares more about your marriage than God. Ask God – He will provide".
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This book is written for the Christian husband who desires to know the proper ways of loving his wife the way God intended, so she will want to submit to his unwavering love for her. Lewis tackles every subject in this fascinating God-help (notice I didn't say self-help) book: Love, sex, romance, expression, attitude, wisdom, communication, forgiveness, and respect. Her writing is accurate and concise because she has been down in the valley and, in my personal opinion, she has reached the mountaintop of understanding how to have a successful and happy marriage. --- Review by |
These issues and more will be addressed in detail in Love The Woman You Married
