Stop
Divorce and Recommit Yourselves Recommitting
yourselves to one another in marriage is for couples that are choosing
to work on their marriage, resolve issues, and recommit their lives to
each other. It is for couples that have grown apart spiritually and or
emotionally and intend on encouraging each other through their devotion
to one another. And finally, it is for couples who just want to remind
their spouse of how much they mean to them, and to keep the bond going
strong. Recommitting your
lives to each other can be an elaborate affair involving all of your
friends and family, or it can be a simple and private ceremony between
just you and your spouse. Of course in both instances, God is a special
witness overseeing your re-promise to each other. Let your spouse know
that marriage is for life and your commitment to the marriage will be
life long concern of yours through the good times as well as the not so
good. For believers,
recommitment involves asking Jesus Christ into your marriage and basing
your thoughts and actions upon the Word of God. Recommitment is knowing
what your responsibilities in the marriage are according to God and His
standards. Recommitting is NOT
lip reading some words to your spouse that you really don’t mean but
to speak from your heart knowing full good and well that God is
listening to your every word. Come together in prayer and recite
whatever vows you have prepared ahead of time. You might be
wondering why would it be necessary to recommit yourself to the person
you married? Recommitment shows your love on a regular basis and brings
couples closer together, reminding them of how important the marriage
really is. The other reason is if couples married too young and they did
not hold the same value toward the marriage, as they should have, they
now have the chance to make up for that by recommitment to each other. By choosing to work
on marital issues and recommitting to each other the second time around,
the marriage will most likely become more valuable in your conviction
bank. The most important
aspects to remember about recommitment are it first involves having a
committed heart to Jesus Christ, so we can fully understand what
commitment means. The second most important aspect is realizing that
marriage is not about you. It is about both of you, and that means
considering the feelings of another in all situations that would involve
the person you married. I have listed four
important aspects below that would help to bring commitment back into
the marriage with your willingness.
This does not mean
your marriage will not run into problems, but it means that now you have
the proper resources to apply into the marriage when confronted with
certain issues that upset the apple cart from time to time. No marriage
is perfect; marriage is only what we make it to be. The main reason, I
believe, people get divorced is because they don’t have the foggiest
idea how to manage issues that arise in the marriage. But if we choose
to accept and follow the four steps above it will bring a dead marriage
on the brink of divorce back to life! So stop divorce and recommit
yourselves to each other. Take responsibility for your marriage! God is the greatest
source for our marriage and He provides us with what we need on a
continual basis, therefore we should strive to make God a priority in
our marriage. His loving guidance is what helps us to feel content so we
won’t feel the need to be selfish. The minute we take our eyes off of
Him we trod the path that leads to relying on our own understanding and
we become selfish. We should choose to
love our spouse even when we don’t feel like being very loving because
that is how we are to love our spouse. Jesus Christ has taught us how to
love through His actions of love for us. Recommitting your life to your
spouse means your marriage is important to you and that you want to
remain married for life through the good times as well as the bad. Put on therefore,
as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness,
humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
Questions For Couples
1. What does recommitment to your spouse mean to you?
2. Why would you recommit your life to your spouse?
3. What must couples do FIRST before they can recommit themselves to each other?
4. What four aspects need to be included in the recommitment with your spouse? 1. 2. 3. 4.
5. According to Christ in what way are we to properly love our spouse?
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