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Show The Woman You Married What have you done lately to show your wife how much you love her? Did you take her out to dinner? Maybe you bought her some flowers or chocolates? A man likes to do these things for a woman because it’s easy and fast. But is your wife really appreciating the flowers and chocolates? In this article I have mentioned a few other useful loving gestures you can do to show your wife your love for her. 1. Consider with greatness the woman you married. A woman needs her man to consider her feelings. I know sometimes this is challenging for you to do, especially if you disagree with something she needs your support on. There is a correct way to do this without being offensive and hurting her feelings. First of all be understanding of your wife’s feelings and then collaborate her on her thoughts and ideas even if they differ from yours. In essence, when you listen to your wife’s feelings, without criticizing her, you have essentially given her the validation she needs. We all need validation, even you. It makes us feel useful and productive individuals. By trying to be more understanding, essentially you will be respecting the woman you married. Tell her how much you like her decorating style, or how she manages the home, or the way she dresses, or how smart she is. Find the things about your wife you really like, be honest and tell her the great things you love about her instead of keeping those feelings inside. Consider with greatness the woman you married and have been blessed with. Validation is a form of acceptance that you can give your wife. By accepting her for the woman she is it will make her feel safe and secure being your wife. A woman who feels safe and loved will ultimately give more of her self to her man. Ironically, a husband can validate his wife’s feelings better when he takes the role of spiritual leader in the home. A man who feels secure in his position is more likely to make his wife feel good about who she is in the marriage. They work better together as a team, accomplishing more for themselves and the marriage. 2. Be more Affectionate with your wife Hold your wife’s hand while watching TV, taking a walk, or driving in the car. Massage her back or feet without asking for anything in return. Your wife likes to be touched and fussed over occasionally, know when that time is by being attune to your wife’s feelings, and paying special attention to your wife on those days. 2. Surprise your wife with something totally unexpected Instead of golfing with your buddies on Saturday, take your wife to a romantic outside lunch if it is summer or fireplace lunch in the winter. Then take her to a romantic comedy matinee movie. If you have the money to spend, book a hotel room for the night with a Jacuzzi and enjoy the night together! Your wife will love all this. Make her a homemade all-occasion card on the computer telling her how important she is to you in your life. Make her feel special. Get creative, draw her a picture, and spend time on creating this card, she will love it that you took the time to make her a card rather than simply buying one from the store. It is the simple things in life that mean the most. 4. Give your wife the whole day off from cooking, children, and house cleaning. This isn’t too hard. On your day off do everything for her. Do all the things she does for you. If you don’t know how to cook, order pizza or Chinese food. Let your wife spend the day with her friends shopping or going to lunch, etc. When she comes home give her a back rub, take her shoes off, draw her a hot bubble bath and let her take a long bath. When she comes out from her bath, light the candles, caress her some more and just be there for her all the rest of the evening. Be her loving, romantic and protecting man so she can be the woman God created her to be for you. 5. Appreciate all that your wife does All of the above will show your wife that you love her and appreciate her for everything that she does. Being understanding of your wife’s feelings and needs on a consistent basis will improve the quality of your marriage a great deal. By taking the respective roles that God has designed for each gender will greatly enhance the happiness of your marriage. Be the man of the house so she can be the lady of the house.
Questions for Husbands
1. Do you consider your wife with greatness for who she is?
2. do you validate your wife even though you may disagree? (it is ok to disagree, but first let your wife have her opinion, and then lovingly state your opinion - you can do this without invalidating her feelings, thoughts, and ideas.)
3. Write down four ways in which you can be more affectionate with your wife? And then act them out for two weeks. Watch your wife think she married a new man. Did she marry a new man? Four ways that I can be more affectionate with my wife. 1. 2. 3. 4.
4. Name four ways you can be more appreciative of all that your wife does. And then act that appreciation out for two more weeks! 1. 2. 3. 4.
Couples can really do more for their spouses by showing their love in so many ways through their actions. It is really not about spending a bunch of money but more about our actions towards them. We can learn to be more loving through our actions. |