Heaven Ministries
June 2010
Volume 10 Issue 70

Marriage Alive! Newsletter   

Marriage Articles

Angie and Frank talk About Headship and Submission

Loving Your Christian Spouse according to Principles

Irreconcilable Differences is a Hardened Heart


Are You Married to an Alcoholic?

How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse

Biblically Speaking, Can I Divorce my Alcoholic Spouse?

How Can I Help My 
Spouse Get Sober?

How Can I Get Sober 
and Stay Sober for Good!


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Loving Your Christian Spouse According to Christ’s Principles


I bet you never thought that someone would show you how to love your spouse? The fact is this is what God has shown His children; Heaven Ministries is only an encourager to His Truths. And the truth is if we want to please God and do His will in marriage then we should be willing to act on the moral lessons and principles laid out in His Word, which is how Christ teaches us to love. Let’s take a closer look at a few of these biblical principles for having a blessed marriage.

“As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:2-3)

God has chosen us to be Christ’s servants and we ought to be good examples of Christ in our calling. As a married woman our calling is to love our husbands through our helpmeet service to him. As a married man our calling is to provide, protect, and love our wives more than we do ourselves. How are we being worthy of our calling if we do not respect or care for the man or woman we married?

People are always watching our lives as Christ Ones. Young Christian people especially need to be encouraged in how they live their lives as followers of Jesus Christ. Can people see Jesus Christ working in you? Are you being a good moral example to the younger generation who will someday get married? This is our calling as Christian married people.

“Then they can train the younger women to love their husband and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” (Titus 2:3-5)

No one is EVER going to be perfect as long as they live in their mortal bodies and this is why we must love our spouse in spite of their faults. Some days we will not feel like being very loving, but it is a principle of love that we do anyway. Marriage takes sacrifice, just as Jesus sacrificed his life for ours, we must sacrifice our life for the man or woman we married.

Instead of focusing on what divides us, we should be concentrating on what brings us unity with our spouse, which is the “one flesh” of marriage. Are you making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace in your marriage?

“Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:26-28)

Husbands and wives are to SERVE one another in marriage! Jesus described leadership as a means of serving others rather than using others.  In fact Jesus mission was to serve others and to give his life away and THAT IS the example Christians are to follow.  Married couples are to serve one another and sacrifice their lives for each other. Not through death but through service. In what ways can you serve your spouse?


Irreconcilable Differences is the Hardened Heart

Irreconcilable differences are a bureaucratic term used in divorce proceedings describing a myriad of reasons why couples divorce. The state grants divorce for couples because of hardened hearts, which is the inability to reconcile differences. Actually everyone has the ability to reconcile differences with their spouse but selfishness stands in the way.

He saith unto them, “Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. (Matthew 19:8)

Jesus is explaining to the Pharisees why divorce was ever approved. God did not grant divorce to couples, Moses did! God would never approve divorce because he intends marriage to be for life!

Most people jump into marriage based on strong feelings and emotions rather than the principled actions to love. Let love be without dissimulation (Romans 12:9)

Jumping into marriage couples are wearing rose-colored glasses and see their Prince Charming / Cinderella with powerful feelings of desire. Once the desire wears off they suddenly see the faults and weaknesses of their spouse, but because the strong feelings of desire are gone, they are unable to reconcile with those faults and weaknesses. Love must be sincere. (Romans 12:0)

What about going into marriage prepared and committed? Be willing to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage fruitful and productive. Don’t jump into marriage based on feelings and emotions only, go into marriage realizing you will have to practice principled acts of love every single day of the marriage. Realistically that’s what marriage takes! If you don’t think you can do that then don’t get married. Please take the rose-colored glasses off.

Compromise or Hardened Heart?

We all have faults, sins, and weaknesses before marriage, so what changes after marriage? What changes is that couples don’t want to accept one another and work on the marriage anymore—they give up! For their own selfish reasons they stop giving of themselves in the marriage, and as we all know, once that happens the marriage is hopelessly doomed. Marriage is a give and take commitment that takes sacrifices every single day! Compromise or hardened heart?  Are you still wearing those rosy colored glasses?

Forgiveness or Hardened Heart?

Forgiveness? What’s that? We all know what forgiveness is, we just don’t practice it. It’s easier to be burdened with an unforgiving heart than forgive. Forgiveness is difficult, especially if you are hurting, but even if there is good reason to hold in resentment and grudges it will kill your soul. Anyone who does not forgive will become bitter and full of hatred. Forgiveness opens your heart to loving others and if there is anyone you should be practicing to love, it is the person God has blessed you with. Forgive and receive forgiveness for yourself. Forgiveness or Hardened heart?  Those rosy spectacles are turning sweaty on your face. Boy it’s hot!

Respect or Hardened Heart?

Respect is the greatest act of love that we can give one another. It knows no boundaries. It is what keeps love alive and moves the heart to be more for each other. The minute couples stop respecting each other for the person they are, and their position in the marriage, the minute the marriage will begin to go downhill, and fast! Honor one another above yourselves. (Romans 12:10)

Where is the Understanding of God’s Purpose?

So are you still wearing those rose-colored glasses? Are you still unable to understand the purpose God has for YOU and your marriage?  We all know what God wants for marriage, now we just need to turn that knowledge into action! Turn your marriage into the relationship that God intends it to be rather than what YOU think it should be.

Understand and apply the loving principles and actions that God has blessed you with into your marriage. Learn to reconcile differences through those principles, and watch your marriage become fruitful and abundant because it is now based upon the design God meant for it. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. (Romans 12:11)

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)


Take care and God bless
Angie and Frank




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