Heaven Ministries
May 2009
 Issue 63

Marriage Alive! Newsletter   

What's New With Heaven Ministries
Natural Health & Beauty Products

Fat Busters Health Forum

Marriage Articles
Is Resentment Destroying Your Marriage?

To Forgive or Not To Forgive

Health and Beauty
Eliminate Fat and Cellulite With Herbal Wrap

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Heaven Ministries is pleased to offer you a natural line of health and beauty products. These are fabulous products because they are made from all natural ingredients and they really work!! I have tried the "Ultimate Body Wrap" on myself and lost 3-inches over a 72 hour period. I also felt tighter in my stomach with just one application! You only have to wear the wrap for one hour because the herbs keep working in your system up to 72 hours after you wear it. 

A friend of mine, Kathy who is the moderator for our new forum says that her wrinkles are disappearing from using the wrinkle repair cream just a few times!! Other women I have talked with love the age defining gel, which reduces wrinkles, repairs stretch marks and cellulite. 

Almost everyone I have talked to, who has tried the body wrap has lost at least two inches just from wearing it only one time. Several applications a month is recommended for best results. The Ultimate Body Wrap cleanses the system, breaking up fat cells (cellulite) under the skin--this is how it repairs cellulite. See the before and after pictures of the Ultimate Body Wrap at work. 


Fat Busters Health Forum
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I started this forum as a place where we can gather and get encouraged in our weight loss journey. But leave it to me...I have added  7 new areas of health that Kathy and I would like to share with you all. Besides that I need encouraged myself sometimes. Fat Busters forum is a place where I want everyone to feel comfortable sharing their weight loss tips and avenues to good health, or where you would like some support and tips for yourselves. 

Kathy, the moderator of the forums is a wonderful gal and mother with two small sons...she is trying to lose a few pounds, (aren't we all) and find encouragement and tips from others as well.  Kathy also shares her weight lifting secrets to getting a lean and mean body for women. So don't be shy...our new community needs you to be a part of it so we can begin to share what we know with each other. Blessings! :-) A.

Is Resentment Destroying Your Marriage?

Resentment is a very powerful emotion. In fact, anyone who harbors this terrible emotion shouldn’t be trying to make rational decisions for themselves or their marriage. I would even venture to say that most divorces are because of unmet and unfulfilled emotions, which is what this emotion is!! It can literally control a person—what they say—what they do—and how they behave. Unfulfilled people are the biggest resentment holders because they don’t speak up assertively to get their needs met.

How do I know all this? I used to play the bitterness game many years ago when I was still absorbed in my self and alcoholism. I was also addicted to my feelings and manipulating and controlling others using my negative feelings. Whenever I felt slighted by my husband I would hold it against him with resentment and unforgiveness.

Fortunately I figured out that I was only hurting myself with my bitter feelings and that I was the cause of my own negative feelings of ill will. It doesn’t matter what someone else says and does, what matters is how we react. So how did I figure it out? I prayed about it over and over again.

One day I just woke up with a different attitude. I now know that God blessed me with knowledge that I did not have before. He gave me wisdom that before I was not ready for because I couldn’t see wisdom. I didn’t want to see it. I was too selfish to realize my own faults. I can say this with much confidence because I used to be a resentment propagator. I didn’t know how to react to other people’s behavior toward me.

My daughter, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning you ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God. For the LORD gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. (Proverbs 2:1-6)

You see your spouse can’t make you feel resentful—you do that to yourself.  The more you harbor ill will towards your spouse, the more difficult it will be for you to see reality—to see the big picture of things. Holding in negative feelings within your spirit creates sin in your life. Resentful feelings tell your mind what to do, how to believe, and how to behave towards your spouse. It may tell you to get a divorce.

Perhaps it tells you to look at pornography. You think it is justified because your wife rejects you often. Or perhaps you think it is ok to have an affair because your husband did it. Or it can tell you to be ugly and mean with your spouse because you feel like behaving that way. Resentment is a negative emotion that will tear your marriage apart until there is nothing left to repair. Resentment told me to drank, so I drank away my miserable feelings.

Some people are more prone to holding in resentment than others. It doesn’t make them bad people. It just means they have not learned how to handle this particular emotion. They have not accepted Gods words of wisdom.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. (James 1:5)

So what kinds of people are prone to harboring resentment? 

Non-assertive people
Alcoholic and other addicts
Pent up past baggage holders
Unforgiving hearts.

Anyone can learn to free themselves of this terrible emotion and be content from within, no matter what others around them are doing or how they are behaving. Understand that “you cannot control another persons behavior”, even if it is your own spouse! You have to get it in your mind that many aspects of life are not in your power to control. But you can control “how you react” to your spouse’s behavior.

Secondly, you have to speak up when your spouse says or does something that is offensive. You still can’t control or change them, but you can let them know when they have trespassed against your spirit. How will they know any other way? Do you think that if you treat them back with a bad attitude that is going to help? I don’t think so. Learn to be nicely assertive about how you feel. Then treat your spouse back in a good and productive way. Get creative with your attitude. 

Don’t put your feelings on the back burner—bad idea. I know first hand that when we put our feelings on the back burner they mount up more and more negative garbage. If you are a woman reading this then you know that when your monthly rolls around hormones can literally get the best of our emotions. Do you want to contend with back burner resentment too?

Get past issues off your chest. Pray about it and ask God to give you the knowledge to understand yourself better. Understand that you are only damaging your own spirit through your own negative emotions. God will help you to feel better about yourself, spouse and marriage when you put your trust and faith in Him. He will allow your heart to be free of the burden of unforgiveness. Look for the hidden treasure of wisdom and God will bless you. Believe that!

The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. (James 3:17)


 To Forgive or Not To Forgive

The other day I got an email from a frustrated Christian woman. She told me how she has been trying to forgive her husband of adultery and get over the resentment she is feeling towards him. The problem is when he committed the infidelity he was not a practicing Christian man. It has been only recently that he has decided to turn his life around and walk with the Lord Jesus. But she is not letting her resentment go. She still feels considerable pain, even though her husband is repentant and remorseful of his actions. 

So what do you think about this? If he were a changed man why would she still be feeling resentful towards her husband? Do you think I am getting both sides to the story? I never get the full story when I only get a one sided view of an issue – it makes it hard when I don’t hear the other side to the story. 

And what about her? Do you think she has never sinned against the man she married? I am sure that she must get angry with her husband from time to time, or disrespected him or treated him with contempt, and she possibly even flirted with other men herself. She certainly is not without sin because we all sin! 

We often have this one sided view of our position in the marriage and we tend to get pious just because we did not commit a sexual sin against our spouse, and somehow because of that we think we’re a better person, a better Christian, or a better marriage partner, etc. But to God, it does not matter what sin we commit or don’t commit because to Him a sin is a sin. 

We are not to get angry, store up wealth, judge our neighbor, covet what our neighbor has, become greedy, or even look at a man or woman with thoughts of lust, and yet, we all do those things every single day. Do we want to be forgiven if we were repentant? I think so! I certainly understand this women is hurting...that's why she needs to forgive. Her heart is heavy. If she does not forgive she will store up resentment and bitterness within her, which will kill her spirit. 

What are feelings of resentment all about anyway? Well, it is a negative emotion that we hold against someone so we can feel better about ourselves. If we don’t have our angry and bitter feelings to hurt back with, we may become vulnerable to being hurt again. This is why God asks us to continue to forgive over and over again. 

In other words, we cannot get rid of our resent filled feelings until we make the switch from our own playing field to God’s playing field. As Christians everything we do and say should be done based out of God’s playing field, otherwise what would all this Christian stuff be about? God has blessed us with so much and yet many of us take those blessings for granted. We are not stuck living in our resentment when we ask Christ to help us deal with our emotions and then to forgive others.

Truth be told, we have to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes first before we realize the ramifications of our own actions. Or scripturally speaking, take the log out of our own eye first before we can take the sliver out of our spouse’s eye. God will bless us with the humbleness we need so we can hand over our bitterness and resentment to Him. 

Without God in the forefront of our lives, we actually think our selfish feelings our okay to have, but they aren’t. It’s okay to feel resentment and anger for a time, but to be free to love our spouse with the love we have been given from God we have to let those negative emotions go and forgive, possibly over and over again, and again. 

Eliminate Fat & Cellulite With Body Wrap

Fat that is stored inside the body shows up on the outside in the form of cellulite.  Fat can be eliminated forever through the eating of natural, wholesome foods, body toning, and detoxification. But you already knew that, right? Losing fat and the appearance of cellulite is something that takes several different types of natural remedies at once.

Let’s start with food. Natural food is any food that has not be denatured by factories and manufacturing plants. An example is what they do with sugar and flour. Both of these cause fat and cellulite to grow inside and outside our body. Raw bees honey, natural maple syrup, dried fruit sugars, and the herb Stevia do not cause harm to the body. Eat these wholesome sugars until your heart and mind is content. Do not give honey to a child under the age of two.

Whole-wheat flour, brown rice, rolled oats, popcorn, barley, millet, cornmeal, and legumes and peas can all be eaten extravagantly and you’ll still lose weight and fat. Throw out the lean cuisine for the curried lentils and rice. Toss out the hot pockets for the beans and cornbread. Opt for leaner meats like poultry and fish instead of beef and pork. Eat and be happy with yourself after you eat. No need to feel guilty when you eat food that gives your body nourishment.

Natural foods burn off the body through normal every-day activities such as house cleaning, walking, swimming, calisthenics, and believe it or not, even while sleeping.  Refined food products that are prepackaged and made with hydrogenated oils do not burn off as readily and efficiently as their whole food counterparts. These foods create fat cells to grow in our body faster than we can burn them off.  The solution to slimming down is to start cooking with whole, natural food products.

So choosing to eat right with normal activity, plus detoxifying the system with a natural herbal wrap will make you feel and look your best. The herbal wrap helps to heal the skin and produce a tighter, toner and firmer affect wherever you decide to apply it on your body. The wrap also detoxifies the body, which often results in inch loss as your body flushes out toxins. The herbal ingredients continue to work for 72 hours after you have applied the wrap so you may continue to see progressive results over this time.

Losing weight or maintaining ideal weight should be a lifestyle. Diets don’t work. The most important aspect about losing weight is to never rely on just one solution to do the job. You can exercise all day long but if you are eating the wrong kinds of food you will have skin problems, whether it is cellulite, wrinkles, bulging tummy, or unhealthy skin tone. Several lifestyle changes are needed to look and feel great and to be the best you can be, not just physically but spiritually and mentally as well.

Eating a good daily diet is not enough if you want to maintain muscle tone. Even skinny people have cellulite. Brisk walking is a great cardio activity that most people can apply into their daily lifestyle and it is so good for your health. Grab a friend and walk for your health! So for beautiful looking skin exercise, eat right and detox with the herbal wrap.

The natural ingredients in the herbal wrap work to break up the fat cells inside your body, which will then travel through the lymphatic channels, where finally the toxins will be eliminated through your bowels and kidneys. The wrap is considered to be a mild form of liposuction. The great thing about it is the wrap is easy and safe to use.

To see all of our line of natural skin care, health and beauty products click here. Email me if you have any questions. 

Take care and God bless!


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