Heaven Ministries 
Oct-Nov 2006 
Volume 3 Issue 36 

Marriage Alive! Newsletter

Marriage Articles

The Unfaithful wife seeking forgiveness

The unfaithful husband seeking forgiveness


Just For Teens

The Skinny on Teenage Body Image and spiritual Health


Joanne's Devotion

You Are Forgiven



Marriage Quote


Do You listen To Your Spouse?


Other Articles

Would Jesus Celebrate Halloween?


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 The Unfaithful Wife Seeking Forgiveness

These days it seems, even the wife is getting herself into a little trouble when it comes to staying faithful. This article does not concern women who don’t care about right or wrong, and have become rebellious to their husbands. Any woman can be unfaithful to her husband, that’s the easy part; the hard part is being unfaithful to her beliefs.

The main reason a wife would be unfaithful is non-committal to her marriage. Without this important aspect covering the marriage, she will undoubtedly fall for the misinformation of the outside world, especially if her marriage is not so great to begin with. The second reason is she is not committed to God, which is really the first reason, because I feel that without full belief and acceptance of Christ Jesus who has given us all of who He is, a woman will not be able to devote herself to her purpose in life.

When a woman becomes born again, she is given a newfound strength from God that frees her from temptation. In other words, she is able to control her lustful attitude and remain faithful. This gives a wife the freedom to live for God rather than for herself.  If she cares about the sanctity of her marriage she should try and figure out “why” she would skip flight and become unfaithful in the first place, or better yet, find out how she can learn to devote herself to her marriage, whether all is going well or not

Watching television shows that depict sexual lust, immorality and adultery, condition the mind into believing adultery is acceptable. These demoralizing shows make unfaithfulness look glamorous and alluring, but it is not. God does not allow us to do what we want now, and then later celebrate heaven with Jesus. Nope, it doesn’t work like that.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexual immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

An unfaithful wife should take a look at her attitude and see what she can do to change it from bitterness of heart, to love, truth and goodness. When she seeks the truth, she will ultimately find the love of Christ within, and she will then be able to forgive herself for her transgressions. Once that is accomplished she can begin living for the Lord rather than for herself. I truly believe that most unfaithfulness in marriage stems from not keeping in tune with our spiritual side. We have to study the word and we have to bring the word into our heart and mind on a daily basis for reflection and spiritual growth.

If a wife has been unfaithful and she is repentant for her actions she will not do it again. That means she will not go out of her way to look for it. Her repentance has saved her from the temptation; therefore, she will do whatever it takes to remain faithful to her husband and work on her marriage. If she is unable to forgive herself and she is wrapped up within guilt she should come to God and pray about it, asking Him for release from her pain and suffering.

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)

If she is unable to forgive herself, she will not find it an easy task to accept forgiveness from her husband or God.  The problem is now she is in a catch 22, because without God’s Spirit of love and truth penetrating within her she is likely to repeat her unfaithfulness over and over again. If a wife feels in her heart that she has done wrong and wants to save her marriage, she has received forgiveness already from God; she should accept that she has been forgiven and heal herself.

A woman’s purpose is what makes her who she is. A married woman can choose to seek out what her purpose is and begin living for what God created her to be.  Once a godly woman finds her purpose it will be difficult to break her free from progressing further into the truth of her existence. For she has found the wisdom and knowledge from above that was planted as a mere seed in her heart. It has finally produced beautiful rose petals for lavishing upon her family. She has been forgiven so she should let the sin go from her heart and begin to live and love. 

If you put away the sin that is in your hand and allow no evil to dwell in your tent, then you will lift up your face without shame; you will stand firm without fear. (Job 11:14-15)


The Unfaithful Husband Seeking Forgiveness

It is sad and scary how society has deemed adultery a natural part of the American culture. This is why God specifically says for believers to separate from the ungodliness of the world.  I truly believe that unfaithfulness in marriage stems from not keeping in tune with our spiritual side. We have to study the word and we have to bring the word into our heart and mind on a daily basis for reflection and spiritual growth. This article is for those husbands who are repentant and want to save their marriage. 

Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it – he will be blessed in what he does.  James (1:22-25)

Are you deceiving yourself by not putting Gods perfect law into your daily life? God’s law points out sin and gives the husband the opportunity to repent and ask for God’s forgiveness. Salvation frees a man from sins control. As a believer you are free to live as God created you to live. If you are not living the way God intends for you to live, could it be that you have not yet settle your debts with God?

“But if a wicked man turns away from all the sins he has committed and keeps all my decrees and does what is just and right, he will surely live; he will not die. None of the offenses he has committed will be remembered against him” (Ezekiel 18:21)

Pride tends to make a man selfish, and leads him into believing he deserves everything he sees and wants. Because of this attitude, it creates greed and lust, which invariably leads to immoral desires, such as adultery, pornography and all other immoral sexual sins. A husband can be released from the bondage of his temptations when he humbles himself to the Lord and accepts Christ forgiveness. When you become filled up with the Holy Spirit you will see that the world’s alluring appeal are only cheap substitutes for what God has for you.

Forgiveness comes when you let down pride and open yourself up to God by giving Him your life. Why give your life to the world? The world can’t save you. The world is blind to the ways of the Lord and stands in the way of forgiveness and love. Don’t be deceived any longer. Your source for everything under the sun is the One who created you. Humble your life to Him and let Him guide your paths to righteousness.

Blessed is the man who preserves under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. (James 1:12)

Temptations do not come from God; they come from the evil desires within us. They begin with an evil thought and become sin only when we act upon them. A man must always keep Gods words written upon his heart on a daily basis as to throw off the wrong thoughts that satan tries to deceive him with.  I can’t tell you how important it is to continue studying the words of God and to reflect and grow on them daily. Persevere always and do not give up the fight. The fight is between good and evil. You don’t want to let evil prevail do you? Come to the Lord and be forgiven.

Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. (James 1:21-24)


The Skinny On Teenage Body Image and Spiritual Health

Many young women and teenagers are placing great value on looking like the latest Cover Girl model, and placing little or no value on spiritual health. I agree, it is important to feel good about the way we look, but I think the culture is going a bit too far. It is far more important for young girls to feel good about who they are on the inside, wouldn’t you agree?

What are we teaching our youth of today? Have we, as parents contributed to this self-indulgent need to look perfect, be thin as a rail, and wear expensive adornment to be somebody? Have we taught our children that beauty starts on the outside? Are we telling them that it is more important to “look” good rather than “be” good?

I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold and pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.  (1 Timothy 2: 9, 10)

It is not a sin to get a nose job, and wear expensive clothing and jewelry, but as we all know, real beauty comes from the inside of a person, not what they are wearing or how beautiful they look. A modest, kind teenager will gain more respect and kindness from others than one who dresses in expensive clothes and is stuck-up and hateful. It all begins in the attitude.

The standards of what society deems important is not what God deems important. As a teenager, I strived to be accepted by others, but I never really loved myself. Because of this, I never became the young person God created me to be. I wasted my teenage years trying to impress others, but that wasn’t who I was. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I realized God’s love for me. It is never too late to become the person God intends you to be, but if you wait, it may be too late.

It is important to wear clean clothes and be well groomed, but it is not important to have big breasts, a twenty-five inch waist, full lips, and a perfect nose. God made you the unique and special young girl that you are. Your nose, eyes, lips and chin is your uniqueness that sets you apart from looking like everyone else. Accept what God has given you and be content to be who it is you are.

…Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:4)

It’s easy to be beautiful on the outside, but it is not an easy thing to be beautiful on the inside. Being beautiful on the inside is a bit more difficult to accomplish. It takes great wisdom and understanding to realize the special person you are regardless how much money you have, how skinny you are, or what you wear. Those things don’t make someone be great. Those things do not make someone successful. Those things are only a cover up to hide the true self. To be great and to be successful is to know God! Your true value in God is what’s important not what others think of you.

Please don’t fall for the “appearances trap”, and become too obsessed with fashion and looking like the latest cover girl model. Dress to please God not others. Of course, hygiene and neatness is always important, but even more important is your inner spiritual self and attitude towards others and God. Strive to be the person God wants you to be not what the world is enticing you to be.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)


Marriage Quote
Do You listen To Your Spouse?

The most important marriage skill is listening to your partner in a way that
they can't possibly doubt that you love them.
Diane Sollee


Joanne's Devotion



“When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers?  hath no man condemned thee?  She said, No man, Lord.  And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.”


John 8: 10, 11

King James Version


I asked Jesus to forgive my sins and come into my heart and be my personal Saviour.  Yet, for almost twenty five years I couldn’t forgive myself for the terrible things I had said to my family, loved ones and friends.  I kept putting myself down and allowed satan to keep me shackled in depression because of not being able to forgive myself. 


One day, Jesus spoke to my heart and said that I had not truly accepted His forgiveness. He told me that I was acting like He didn’t have the power to forgive my sins and change my heart because I wouldn’t forgive myself and stop thinking about my past. 


I have learned from bitter experience that satan will use our past to try and keep us in bondage of depression and despair.  Jesus tells us that when He forgives us that He never brings it up or holds it against us again.  I submit to you on the Authority of the Word of God that if Jesus has forgiven you, you are forgiven!


If you are constantly dwelling on the things you did before you made a heart commitment to Jesus, then you are allowing satan to defeat you.  We know that satan will never win the war because Jesus defeated him on the Cross of Calvary .  The next time satan accuses you of your past, tell him that you are forgiven, cleansed and set free by the precious atoning blood of Jesus.  Thank God for the cleansing blood of our Saviour.


Joanne Lowe

July 28, 2006







Would Jesus Celebrate Halloween?


Scripture doesn’t say anything about Halloween, but it does have principles in which we can make a clearer judgment on how we should celebrate this holiday, or if we should celebrate it at all.  As Christians we should always be discerning in our choices and take time in prayer and reflection to decide if something is right for us.

Would Jesus listen to music? Yes, I think Jesus would listen to music. We do know that he would NOT listen to anything hateful, blasphemous, cursive, violent, defamatory, racist, evil, occultist, or anything else offensive.

Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.  (Romans 12:9)

Would Jesus watch Television? I think Jesus would have a difficult time finding anything productive to watch on TV. We do know for a fact that Jesus would not watch anything that is lustful, hateful, racist, gory, evil, destructive, violent, depressing, deceptive, witchery, propagandist, or dark and evil.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22)

Would Jesus celebrate Halloween? We do know that Jesus would not celebrate anything that is hateful, blasphemous, dark, evil, violent, trickery, vandalistic, gory, gothic, dark, witchery, deceptiveness, and the occult.

Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. (Ephesians 5:8-11)

There is nothing evil or hateful about young innocent children dressing up in costumes and going door-to-door for candy? As far as I can see, there isn’t any real harm in getting some candy and knocking on doors to do that. The harm begins when certain people engage in evil and destructive practices harming others and themselves in the process. So how can Christians separate the two?

For those of you who simply cannot give up this holiday, there are a few alternative ways you can celebrate it without the dark and evil aspects of this holiday being a part of the celebration. See what activities your local Church or community is organizing. Usually they have food, candy, games, apple bobbing, hayrides, square dances, etc. All of these activities are perfectly fine. If you’re unsure about an activity, ask yourself, “Would Jesus do this?” and there you will find your answer.

In conclusion, God doesn’t want us to participate in anything that would take our eyes off of Him and onto something evil and hateful. It is all about attitude. If we carry around an attitude of righteousness and love then there is no darkness?

So is it a sin to celebrate Halloween? It is a sin to partake in evildoing. It is not a sin to take your children out for candy or on a hayride.  Use discretion in whatever you do. For my family and me, we have decided to not participate in any of it, but this is a personal conscientious choice that each individual must decide for himself.


"God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. (1 John 1:5,6)




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