Aspects on Spiritual Growth For Marriage
Marriage takes two to make it a team.
Are you a team player working towards the good in all areas of
your marriage? Are you growing spiritually with your spouse?
Are you allowing your faith to intervene in your marriage
where it should?
Spiritual growth is gradual not instant
It takes times to learn deep spiritual
growth for your marriage. Learning to walk with Jesus is
something that a husband and wife can do together. It can be
an enjoyable learning experience that will bring you closer
together and will help bond the sanctity of your marriage.
When a person becomes a Christian, he or
she is given a new life through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Jesus Christ sets us free from our evil desires by his
spiritual operation--The Holy Spirit.
Christian growth is a lifetime process,
meaning we don't automatically start thinking good thoughts
and have a pure attitude about everything! These things take
time and much wisdom from God. This is why it is often called
a "spiritual growth process". Sometimes change seems
slow but your marriage will change significantly if you keep
trusting in God to build it up.
The more we trust in Jesus Christ, the
sharper our vision becomes, which increases our understanding.
"Do not merely
listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it
says, Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it
says is like a man who looks at himself in the mirror and
after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets
what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the
perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not
forgetting what he has heard, but doing it-he will be blessed
in what he does." James1:22-25
Understanding the process of spiritual growth for your
There is a wonderful little parable in
the bible about the Kingdom of God recorded by Mark that
reveals how spiritual growth is a continual and gradual
process that is finally consummated in a harvest of spiritual
maturity. We can understand how this process works by
comparing it to the slow but gradual growth of a plant.
If we forget to water the plant it will
die. Marriage is the same way. Let's remember to water our
marriage on a regular basis so it won't dry out. We do this by
trusting in God and letting him water us first. Once we are
watered we can give more of ourselves to the marriage.
"This is what the
kingdom of God is like. A man scatters seed on the ground.
Night and day, whether he sleeps or gets up, the seed sprouts
and grows, though he does not know how. All by itself the soil
produces grain - first the stalk, then the head, then the full
kernel in the head. As soon as the grain is ripe, he puts the
sickle to it, because the harvest has come." Mark 4:26-29
prunes us, which ultimately strengthens our marriage.
Jesus Christ is the vine. God is the
gardener who cares for the branches (us) to make them
fruitful. There are two kinds of pruning that God does.
(1)separating and (2) cutting back branches. Fruitful branches
are cut back to promote growth. In other words, God will
discipline us to strengthen our character and faith.
The branches that do not bare fruit are
cut off from the vine (Jesus). People who won't bear
fruit for God or those who try to block the efforts of God's
followers will be cut off from God's life-giving power.
Jesus said, "He
cuts off every branch that bears no fruit, while every branch
that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more
fruitful." John 15:2-3
The bible says we are all strong in some
areas and weak in others. Our faith is strong if we can avoid
sinning when we are around others who are sinning. If
our faith is weak in certain areas we must avoid those things
that might be tempting for us.
We need to ask ourselves,
"Can I do that without sinning?" "Can I
go there without sinning?" "Can I be a good
influence to others instead of falling into sin with
them?" Find out what your strengths and weakness
God wants us to use our faith towards
the good of our marriage. If we have strong faith in certain
areas but shelter that faith, we will not be doing Christ's
work for the marriage. If we have a weak area of faith in
marriage and we expose it, we will be behaving like the world
(culture) does for their marriage and that would be extremely
foolish, wouldn't it?
The bible reveals to us some very
important points about the weak and the strong in faith.
"Accept him whose
faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters.
One mans faith allows him to eat everything, but another man,
whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The man who eats
everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man
who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does,
for God has accepted him. Romans 14:1-4
How to continue basing your marriage upon the foundations of
St. Paul has offered us a strategy to
help us to live day by day for God.
1.) Imitate Christ's compassion and
forgiving attitude. Is there something that you need to
forgive your spouse for?
2.) Let love guide your life as much as
you possibly can. We show love by doing, not by saying. Have
you shown your spouse loving kindness today?
3.) Let the peace of Jesus rule your
heart and mind. We do this by realizing all there is to be
with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may
have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And
over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all
together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ
rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were
called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell
in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all
wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with
gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether
in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus,
giving thanks to the Father through Him. Colossians 3: 12-17
is truly Italian. I am married to an Italian who moved here
from Italy when he was 15 years old. This recipe comes from
his mother and is a family favorite. I hope you enjoy it!
Roma tomatoes (chopped)
4 cloves garlic (chopped)
1 12 ounce can unsalted tomatoes
1 tsp basil
1/2 tsp oregano
1 tsp sea salt
Olive oil for cooking
Fresh Romano Cheese grated
2 lbs of your favorite pasta
Serves 6 to 8 people
sauce pan cook garlic in 1/4 cup olive oil on medium heat
until lightly golden.
Add chopped tomatoes, turn down to medium low and cover and
cook for 5 minutes. Smash tomatoes with wooden spoon. Add
can of tomato sauce and stir in herbs and salt, let cook for 5
more minutes. Pour over your favorite pasta. Be sure to have
Roman Cheese grated on the side for personal use on each dish.
Serve with a salad and a hard crusty loaf of Italian or French
To add a new
feature to this monthly newsletter, I have decide that I will
add a new recipe to each newsletter. These recipes will
be some of my families favorites. I hope you will find them as
tasty and trouble free as I do.
blessed and peaceful holiday!
leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as
the world gives. Do not let your hearts be trouble and do not
be afraid. John 14:27