January 2006
Volume 4 Issue 27

 Heaven Ministries


Marriage Alive!
Heaven Ministries Newsletter


Should a wife/mother work out of the home or Not?

Bring romance back 
into your marriage

Moms Working From Home

Lentil Lasagna Recipe


Love The Man 
You Married

(Biblical applications for marriage)

This book is to be released in February 06




Should A Wife/Mother Work Out 
of the Home or Not?
Advantages and Disadvantages 

Many couples believe they need a second income to meet the demands of the many debts they have accumulated and owe. 

Some mothers wish they didn't have to send their babies off to day care while she goes off to work. But the family budget apparently NEEDS the additional income. But what if it didn't? What if a woman wanted to stay home and put her energies towards being productive in the home? Is this possible? 

What stuff, amenities, luxuries, and entertainment can a household do without? How can couples  rearrange and prioritize the budget better so a wife and mother can be home with her children and be there for her husband when he comes home? 

Let's look at the advantages and disadvantages of a wife/mother working out of the home. 


Mom Stays home


Mom Works

mom shares in her children's growth, bonds to children, tighter knit family life children in day care/babysitter - more colds and flu's, cost money, children not bonded with mom, insecure
home when husband comes home, to greet him, talk, and cook not home to greet, talk, cook for husband. 
less stressful  more stressful

nutritious meals 

TV dinners, fast food restaurants, other

children happier and more content, feel secure and loved children home alone after school, feel unloved, unwanted, get into trouble. (latchkey kids)
tidy and organized home untidy, disorganized, cluttered, dirty home
more money - this is the only advantage sexual advances from other men/office politics

Do you have anything you would like to add to this chart? From what I can come up with so far it looks like the only advantage to a wife/mom working out of the home is for the extra money it brings in. 

Ask you self this: Does your household "really" need the extra money? Would having the extra money make you want to buy more things you really do not need? Just something to think about. 

On the other side of the coin, many women today work in pursuit of feeding the ego -- to be somebody! They feel they are not special or that they don't have an identity apart from their husband if they do not do something for them selves, away from husband and children. But this is so untrue! 

Society has truly lost its values when it looks for reasons to devalue the housewife/mom. But all we have to do is look at all the advantages that a housewife brings to the home to see how valued she really is! If women were staying home and doing the job God intended for them to do I truly believe the world would be a better place. 

Our children need us! Let's not deprive them of the special bond a mother and child can share. This is so very important in life.  

Women are like glue, they hold everything together so nothing falls apart. When a wife/mother isn't home what happens? Everything falls apart. Wouldn't you rather be glue in your own home taking care of your own man and kids, rather than work for another man or woman while someone else is raising your children?

Bottom line: If a woman wants to stay home and spend her energies being productive and useful for her family more power to her! If she feels the need to work and she can do it without it compromising and sacrificing responsibilities of her family  then more power to her. 

It is so great when a woman feels good about her self while being productive for her family. She is there for her family, fulfilling the purpose God intended for her to do! 

Moms Working From Home!

The other advantage to a wife and mother staying home is she can also work from home right from her computer!! There are many typing, writing, graphic design, website design, computer tech, and medical transcriptions jobs (careers), etc, that can be worked right from home over the Internet. 

For a look at some of these work at home opportunities, here are some great links. 

Christian Work At Home Moms 

Christian Freelance jobs

The Mom Team

Home Based Mommy

Pro Card International

Home Typers

This is just a tiny fraction of the work from home jobs out there. Be careful many work from home jobs are scams and some aren't. As with anything you need to be discerning in your search and do your homework and don't ever give money up front. 

The ones I have chosen here do not seem like scams but you never know. You can't judge a book by its cover, as the saying goes. ;o) 


6 Ways To Bring Romance Back 
Into Your Marriage

1. Try and remember how it was when you were first married. What did you do to woo your husband/wife? Do it again! 

Write down all the things you really liked about your spouse and what attracted you to him or her from when you were first married. Never forget the person you married is still that same person. Changes do take place as we get older and mature, but couples who grow spiritually and mentally together instead of apart have better marriages.

2. Don't feel intimidated to try something different from your usual routine. Couples get so caught up in their daily routines that they miss out on the special opportunities to add a little spunk into their marriage. 

Go bowling, roller-skating, ice-skating, see a movie, or walk in the mall. Anything! Just doing something together out of the ordinary that will be fun and relaxing for the both of you plus will bring you closer together. 

3. Take the weekend off and go somewhere romantic. Snow anyone? You don't necessarily need to know how to ski to enjoy the amenities and beauty of a ski lodge. Lounge in the Jacuzzi, go sledding, take long walks outdoors, or sit by the fire talking about anything but work and home life. 

Take a trip to a lake in your area and stay overnight in a cabin. Go fishing with your husband and eat by the campfire. 

4. Take a three day spiritual/meditation retreat together. This will do wonders for the body, mind and soul. it will give you the relaxation you need to refresh your whole outlook on life. 

5. Write down all the things you love about your husband/wife and share your thoughts with each other.  Sometimes we tend to take our spouse for granted and when this happens we forget about all the things we love about them. By doing this fun and simple exercise you will see how it can bring the romance back. Little reminders that your husband/wife is loved and wanted will make them feel good about themselves.

6. Make up your own coupon booklet on the computer and give it to your husband/wife. In the coupon booklet for an example a coupon might read, "This coupon good for a 1/2 hour back rub."  The next coupon might read, "Coupon good for 20 minute foot massage." Doing these little things for your spouse brings couples closer together. 

Happy Romancing! 


Lentil Lasagna Recipe

If you aren't a vegetarian, you might read the title of this lasagna, and think, ugh. That's what I thought the first time I made this vegetarian dish. But it turns out it is really good. The good news is it is good for you too!! 

This is a family recipe that you will not find anywhere else. My family is not vegetarians but we still try and add healthful grains, beans, peas, and brown rice into our dishes when appropriate. Believe me, you will like lentil lasagna unless you don't like lentils and that's another story all together.

This dish is not as difficult to make as it seems. I find that by preparing everything ahead of time it makes the preparation much easier. 


1-lb Lasagna noodles
1- lb Lentils
16 oz Ricotta Cheese
1 egg
8 oz mozzarella cheese
8 oz mild cheddar cheese
4 oz Parmesan cheese
1-1b Roma Tomato's
4 Cloves garlic
Extra Virgin Olive oil
Basil and Oregano
Sea salt. 


1. Prepare lentils according to package 
directions, drain and set aside. 

2. Heat  4 or 5 tablespoons olive oil in sauce pan add the 4 cloves of garlic, sauté until lightly golden in color. Add chopped Roma tomato's, lower heat and simmer covered for 5 minutes. Add 12 oz can of tomato sauce, 2 tablespoons Basil, 1 teaspoon of Oregano and salt to taste. Cook covered on med low for 5 minutes.

3. Add 1 cup of the tomato sauce to the lentils with salt and pepper to taste. 

3. Prepare lasagna noodles according to 
package directions. Add a few tablespoons of oil to the noodles or keep in cold water so they will not stick together, Set aside.

4.  In small mixing bowel mix Ricotta cheese and egg, set aside

5. Grate your three cheeses. Have a good working table with all your preparation dishes in front of you. Lentils, noodles, Ricotta, and three cheeses. Okay, here we go, lets make lentil lasagna.

Make and Bake

6. Grab your baking dish and lightly grease the bottom. Add 2 or 3 ladles of sauce to the bottom of the baking dish. Line the bottom with lasagna noodles, cover noodles with some of the lentils, sauce, ricotta, and some of the cheeses. Do this until all the ingredients are used up. Be sure to have enough cheeses left over for the top. Cover and bake for 35 minutes on 350 degrees.

7. Don't tell your family its lentils -- eat and enjoy! Serve with a crusty loaf of Italian bread and a big Romaine lettuce salad.
Happy Eating!!