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Journey on the Roads Less Traveled
Joyce Ann Edmondson
Unhappy people are usually unhappy because
they have not mastered the ability to be happy within
themselves. Therefore, they may try and gain happiness/pleasure
through others no matter what that entails. Don’t get confused
with my usage of unhappiness and then compare it to depression
because they are two different things. This article is about
unhappy people - not depressed people.
An unhappy person often uses others to get
what they need out of life. At first this may work, but after a
while the relationship begins to experience problems because
their partner cannot tolerate the life getting literally sucked
out of them. This kind of needy and spongy behavior is what the
medical and psychiatric establishments like to call,
There is nothing really wrong with these
kinds of people, except for the fact they need to come out of
their selfishness, grow up, be accountable and take
responsibility for their own happiness. Unfortunately when
certain establishments coin codependency as some life long
emotional problem, people don’t take responsibility for their
behavior. For them it’s always someone else’s fault why they
drink, why they look at porn, why they do drugs, why they have
an anger management problem, why they feel like the whole world
owes them a favor, and why they continue to live a bitter filled
"Realize that true happiness lies
within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and
contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is
no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach
out. Share. Smile. Hug.
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on
others without getting a few drops on yourself." -- Og
The problem begins when the unhappy person
does not get all of their needs and desires met through someone
else and believe they are unhappy because of the person they
married. But in actuality nothing is further from the truth.
Unhappy and bitter people have made an addiction for themselves
– they have a compulsion to wallow in their misery. They are
stuck inside of their discontent and bitter heart and can’t
get out, no matter how much they continue to use and abuse
others for happiness.
The miserable person may even seem jovial to others on the outside – they go to work every day, take care of their families, and seem to have a normal life, but on the inside something is amiss with these unhappy, bitter folks. They often complain about others, and try and control anyone they can to get their needs and desires met. But marriage, and any relationship for that matter, cannot stand up under such abuse and the marriage usually ends in divorce.
So, what can an unhappy person do to help themselves out of their misery? First off the unhappy person should realize that happiness does not grow on trees – you cannot get happiness through others. You are hurting so many people in the process of creating happiness for yourself and that is very wrong.
Happiness is found within the person you are – you master happiness for yourself, once you master the art of connecting with your Creator. If your connection is faulty so will be the person you can be – the whole and complete person you were created to become. Happiness is made through building up your spiritual connection with God. God gives us everything we need to sustain ourselves with. If you have made room in your heart for His wisdom, knowledge and love, then you will find happiness within.
Jesus said, “Until now you have not asked
for anything in my name. Ask and you shall receive, and your JOY
will be complete.” (John 16:24 NIV)
gallbladder cleanse is an easy and natural way to expel
gallstones. What can you expect while doing this simple cleanse?
Expect to be hungry for four days.
Putting the joking aside, the gallbladder cleanse is a
great way to expel gallstones and clean the gallbladder. The
gallbladder cleanse is actually two cleanses in one. The
gallbladder cleanse also cleans the urinary tract and kidneys.
So the gallbladder cleanse is quite important to overall health
and well-being. If
you susceptible to getting bladder infections and other urinary
tract conditions such as kidney stones than this cleanse is an
absolutely must for you. But
don’t take my word for it. Do your own research and find out
all you can about it so
you will feel comfortable with it.
I know what some of you might be thinking.
You’re thinking it’s impossible to expel gallstones
naturally, right? Well, you’re wrong. At first I was skeptical
too, I mean after all, if gallstones were so easily expelled
from the body why are more people not doing this simple cleanse
rather than having their gallbladders surgically removed? I
believe they are skeptical. When we are conditioned since
childhood to run to the doctor for every little ailment we begin
to believe that doctors really are responsible for our overall
health. But doctors are not responsible for our overall health
and well being, we are.
Understand the difference. If I got into a
car accident and severed a main artery, I wouldn’t run home
and make a juice drink. No, I’m going to run as fast as I can
to the nearest doctor to give me some blood. If I fell off my
roof and broke my neck, I’m not going to be able to repair
that by doing a colon cleanse, I will most definitely need a
doctor. Do you see the difference? We need doctors for what
doctors are trained for.
I do believe that people are becoming wiser
to their overall health and opting for a more natural way of
healing rather than using medications to mask their symptoms.
The first and most important aspect about our health that we
need to know is what we put into our bodies on a consistent
basis is what makes us vibrant and full of energy or sick and
weak. It is our responsibility to take care of our health and we
do that by opting for a healthy lifestyle and way of eating.
The gallbladder cleanse is basically an
apple juice fast. That’s right, an apple juice fast, so you
better like apple juice. For three days you drink nothing but
apple juice. Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it?
You should use organic apple juice, but I have done this
cleanse using the grocery store pure apple juice, no sugar
added, and I didn’t notice any difference in how I felt.
Everyone reacts differently to how the
cleanse will affect them. Every time I have done the gallbladder
cleanse, which is three times, I have never experienced any side
affects except for being hungry and a bit of minor stomach acid
on the first day of not eating anything but apple juice. Some
people on the third evening of the cleanse have experienced
light to moderate cramping and still others have gotten
heartburn, stomachache, and or indigestion. So this is just a
guideline on what you may or may not experience.
The reasons we have problems with our
gallbladder in the first place is because gallstones get lodged
in the ducts that carry bile from the liver to the small
intestine. If any of the bile ducts remain blocked for a
significant period of time, severe damage or infection can occur
in the gallbladder, liver, or pancreas. Diets high in fat and
cholesterol and low in fiber increase the risk of gallstones due
to increased cholesterol in the bile and reduced gallbladder
Foods that are the most harmful and help in
the formation of gallstones are hydrogenated oils, refined
sugars, white flour products like donuts, potatoes chips, french
fries, deep fried foods, pasteurized dairy products, red meat,
If you decide to do this cleans and you get
hungry, drink more apple juice, at least a gallon a day per
person and get your mind off of food by watching movies, taking
walks, or reading a good book. On the third evening of the
cleanse, when you are ready for bed, drink a half a cup of pure
extra virgin olive oil to soften the stones; have some lemons
handy for cutting the oil from the back of your throat. Then lay
down on your right side to prepare your body for the expulsion
of the stones the next morning.
On the morning of the fourth day we drink a
sea salt flush, which cleanses the bowels and helps to expel any
toxins that have accumulated in your system over the years. This
flush is a large tablespoon of sea salt with an eight-ounce
glass of filtered water. It is kind of salty tasting and you may
drink additional water if thirsty. You may expel anywhere
between 50 to 200 gallstones, or even more.
Make sure you have nothing important scheduled for the morning hours because you may be in and out of the restroom for several hours as your body rids itself of unwanted toxins and gallstones. You may eat a light dinner of broth with cooked veggies or brown rice and toast for dinner on the fourth evening to get your body ready for regular eating again. If you decide to do this cleanse and you have any questions just send me an email, I will be happy to encourage and advise where I can.
Marriage Question: I've been married for a year and a half. My husband has a problem with anger, but he has gotten better. Our biggest issue right now is porn. He tells me it's normal and natural to look at porn, but it hurts me deeply. I just cannot accept this as a normal condition of marriage. I moved out about three weeks ago. We are discussing working things out, on this issue however, he will not budge & neither will I. Am I abnormal for feeling angry and threatened by his desire for porn? Should I try to work on things or just stay away and divorce him? Any advice would be appreciated.
Marriage Guidance: No, it is not normal or natural to look at porn, in fact it is an unhealthy view of sexuality about yourself and others.
1. Lust is an unhealthy and sinful desire that takes a person away from that which is right and good. It does not matter if it is lusting after strangers on the Internet or a fleshly body in a secret place. To yearn for the flesh of another person other than who you are married is wrong thinking taking over the mind and eliminating the natural goodness that resides in man.
Satan knows that by getting people to think about and envision the lusty images in their mind it will entice them to desire it. Once a person takes a peek, they look again, and again, until they can’t seem to get the immoral imagery away from their mind, and they inevitable become ensnared within it.
If we think long enough about our lustful desires we eventually give way to them. This is because we have no connection to our Creator. We must allow God's love into our life and be forgiven. God says we are not to even THINK about these things in our mind. We need God! We need God's forgiveness!
not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate
you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of
bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life”.
Proverbs 25, 26
2. If the act of adultery is wrong, then so is the intention. It is considered mental adultery and thus a sin! To be faithful to your spouse with your body, but not your mind is to break the trust that is so vital to marriage.
Pornography is easily justified in the minds of those who view it. They have broken a code of ethics to validate in their minds that it is okay to view it. Pornography for many is more justified than the physical act and if they get caught looking at it, all they have to say is, "well, at least I didn't have an affair."
This kind of thinking is wrong and is in total denial. Denial is the opposite of acceptance. If you can't accept that what your doing is wrong then you are in denial. The Internet only enables those who are tempted, and who have no connection to Their creator, to continue in their addiction.
“It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” 1Thessalonians 4, 3-5
The power to rid yourself of temptation and to remain faithful comes from what you believe. Therefore it does not rest in you alone but in your Creator. If you have been unfaithful in adultery or lustful thinking through porn it is because you do not have the foggiest idea how to utilize the tools (gifts) God has given you. Ask God into your life!
Loyalty to ones spouse is a part of the giving process that we learn through allowing God's love and forgiveness into our heart and mind. Once we actually release our errors to God and allow Him to take over in our life, He will help us to understand what love is and how to love others in the right ways! Right now, without God in our life, we will have no understanding to know the difference between love and lust.
It is God's will that all marriages be built upon the rock of loyalty and when you remain steadfast and loyal to your spouse, even through the hardships, you are allowing God to give you the understanding you need to remain faithful. By trusting in what God says for your marriage, you are less tempted to stray from the marriage, whether in the physical act or through pornography.
Therefore, we must stop looking to society for the answers. Faith comes from believing in what we cannot see with our eyes and bringing those beliefs into our heart and mind and acting upon them with passion. Having and utilizing the power of faith is an individual matter that is gained by your own personal relationship with God. Make God you source!
I highly recommend that every married couples go see the movie Fire Proof or rent it when it comes out on DVD. I was so happy when I went and watched this movie, it is in my opinion the best (love story) movie I have ever seen! I will tell you this --- this movie was RIGHT ON!
Fire Proof Your Marriage!
In the beginning God made them male and female.
Have you ever pondered why God created the first man male
(masculine) and the first woman female (feminine)? God did not
create another man to be a sexual companion to Adam, nor did He
create another woman as a sexual companion to Eve. God predestined
the sexual union to be between only a man and a woman, hence, He
created Adam/Man and Eve/Woman. They were perfectly created for each
other sexually, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. God gave
them the ability to experience deep pleasure and love for one
another and the ability to bare children for the world.
Healthy sexuality begins with attitude, hence
if we have an attitude that sexual relations with anyone we desire
is acceptable within our moral conscience we will have sex with
anyone we desire, even if we are married. This is a moral issue that
reflects back into the preconditioning of the human mind. “What
one believes one becomes.” We become what we believe”.
God created them male and female in the
beginning for a reason and that was to sanctify and bless marriage
by keeping it holy and pure. This ideal may seem old-fashioned and
out-dated but God’s principles do not change – people do.
Dating and having many sexual partners before marriage has
caused society to confuse LOVE with LUST, hence sexuality is
distorted in its thinking and becomes unhealthy. Anything other than
the sexual union between a married man and woman creates a distorted
view of sexuality and is not healthy.
Healthy sexuality is respecting persons and their bodies. Healthy sexuality is respecting yourself and your body. Until society can work its way into a healthy way to view the opposite sex, sexuality will remain corrupted and distorted in its thinking. Because this culture has lost respect for itself as a whole, its view of sex has become one not built on love but built on sexual attraction. And that view has caused numerous problems in marriage and family as well as society in general.
Sexuality Issues and Concerns
Sexuality should be viewed as something
beautiful between a married man and woman and regarded without
feelings of shame or guilt. When
we feel guilty or shameful for something we did sexually that means
we are doing something wrong and against our moral conscience.
The lax views and attitudes of our young people today about
sexuality has become extremely unsafe and hazardous to their own
sexuality, especially since the arrival of HIV and AIDS in our
a laissez-faire attitude towards our sexuality has contributed to
numerous issues and problems within our society that have damaged
the sanctity of family and marriage.
LOVE VS. LUST
LOVE is kind = considerate, caring, giving, thoughtful, understanding
Lust is envy = jealous, greed, spite, resentment,
LOVE is not proud = humble, submissive, meek, modest
Lust is self-seeking = selfish, rebellious, rude, egotistical, hateful,
LOVE rejoices in the truth = God is love, Love is God = Wisdom, Holy Spirit,
Lust delights in evil = Satan,
sin, wicked, iniquitous, immoral, and dishonest
Sexual immorality is a temptation we all must
face on a daily basis. God doesn’t forbid sexual sins just to be
difficult. God knows its power to destroy people’s lives
physically and spiritually. God wants to protect us from damaging
ourselves with immoral sexual desires.
Sex outside of the marriage relationship always hurts
someone. It hurts God
because it shows that we care more about our own lustful desires
Paul said in Corinthians, “Do you no know
that your body is the a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you,
whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were
bought at a price (Jesus Christ death freed us from sin). Therefore,
honor God with your body” 1 Corinthians 6: 19-20
Many people believe they have the right to do
whatever they want with their own bodies.
And they think this is freedom, but really, they are enslaved
to their own lustful and sinful desires – they are in bondage and
a slave to their own lustful desires
and this is a negative and destructive way to view sexuality
and to live.
The world has been given moral principles for very good reasons - biblical principles are our stepping-stones towards eternal life with God. When we have a healthy attitude about our sexuality and when we learn to respect others and their bodies we can be free to actually love others wholly and completely without sexual temptations getting in the way. God created all the principles we need to live healthy, productive, sexually pure lives right here on earth.
We must teach our youth about
the positive aspects of sexual abstinence until