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Pornography
Addiction: Playing With Fire
Pornography
addiction is playing with fire. If your marriage means anything to you
at all then you are playing with fire every time you think about
or view porn. Even if you are single it will transform your personality
into something that was not meant for you to be. It is not beneficial
for the mental and emotional aspect of who you are to look lustfully at
another woman or man, other than the person God has blessed you with. “Do not lust
in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes,
for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress
preys upon your very life”. (NIV Proverbs 6:25, 26) Sexual
addiction causes much heartache, guilt, low self-esteem, and remorse
when it is viewed. These emotional feelings will make you feel
inadequate as a person. Emotionally it will drain you of all respect for
people. The written
word says it all. We don’t need to look anywhere else to understand
our purpose and moral duty for marriage. Even if you don’t believe in
God and His Son Jesus, still the written word makes perfect moral
sense for living. Jesus teaches us to “not even look at another with lust”?
It is one of the most powerful teachings in the bible. What Does
The Bible Say? Christ teaches
us not to not even look at another outside of our marriage with feelings
of desire because our thoughts are what cause immoral behavior in our
lives. No one on this planet is immune to behaving sexually immoral if
they allow themselves to become entangled within its lustful traps. God knows you
are worth more than a loaf of bread and this is precisely why there is
so much talk in the bible about denouncing our lustful desires.
Christ teaches that for a married person to even look at a woman
lustfully is committing adultery with her in his heart. Are you letting
her captivate you with her eyes? How does a
woman captivate you with her eyes (body)? Your mind is allowing her to
captivate you. And when she does all kinds of neat tricks to keep you
looking she has caught you just like an animal hunts its prey. You have
now become her prey each and every time you go back and view
pornography. She (porn) now has control of your body and your mind and
your spirit. You are being controlled by it. You will get
burned spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and
psychologically. Pornography takes hold of your goodness and eventually
destroys it. It deeply hurts spouses and relationships. Addiction of any
kind is progressive. That means unless the user stops they will
progressively become worse within the addiction. It upsets me
when naive people say that looking at a little porn is ok. It’s never
just a little bit! That is nonsensical. That is like giving a newly
sober alcoholic a teaspoon of liquor! Here lets give a little wine to
the newly sober alcoholic. How prudent is that? “You have heard that it was said. ‘Do not commit
adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully
has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (NIV Matthew
5:27,28) Husband
& Wife Have Obligations Toward Each Other The husband
should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to
her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:3) What are those
duties? Duties are all about priorities. The first priority is putting
God first in your personal life. If couples based their actions upon
godly principles they would understand how important accountability is
for their marriage, but as it is, they each do whatever they want, which
leads to immoral behavior. This is a no-brainer. Couples need to
communicate intimately every day with each other. A wife is her
husband’s emotional support and a husband is his wife’s. Be there
for each other in every which way! Do not give your spouse any
reason to feel they need praise and encouragement from anyone outside
the marriage. This is what triggers porn viewing and infidelity. Couples
are to uplift each other. Why give that duty to someone outside the
marriage? We all need to
feel good about who we are and there is no one better to do that than
the person we married. This is why God created Eve as a helpmeet to her
husband. God did not want man to be alone so He created beautiful,
intelligent Eve. It is your
duty, as a husband to make sure your wife feels appreciated and loved.
It is your duty as a wife to help your husband to feel appreciated and
love. When couples stop living by the principles that were established
for marriage from the beginning unpleasant circumstances will happen. You Can
Change Your Thoughts And Flee From Temptations It is much more
difficult to flee from temptation if you do not trust in the moral
teachings of Jesus Christ. You do not have to “go to church” to
study His Word or to pray, or to have a personal relationship with Him.
Your relationship with Christ is between you and Him and no one else. He
will give you the answers you need through your personal communication
with Him. Humble
yourself—go to Him, and He will hold you up. You can stop
pornography from preying upon your life right now.
Why allow your thoughts to control what you do if it is not
really what you want to do? If you ask Christ to help you with lustful
feelings and thoughts, He will! If you keep going back to lustful
thoughts it is because you are not putting your trust in your spiritual
Source. Remember that
the written word is your handbook, it is your inspiration and your hope,
it is your encouragement and discipline, which teaches you and saves you
from the world of lust and greed. Put out the fire and put the power of
the written word into your hands today! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13) More Articles Like This One. Pornography Addiction: What Can A Wife Do? Pornography
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