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Healing
the Wounds Brought on by Adultery
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We
Need To Go To The Root
of the Problem!! Are you hurting, angry and resentful because your spouse committed adultery? These are normal feelings to have after finding out your spouse has been with another person sexually, intimately and emotionally. Having a successful marriage after adultery has four main aspects that need special attention, they are: Forgiveness, Accountability, Managing Emotions and Self Healing/Marriage Restoration. Forgiveness = If your spouse is truly sorry for their behavior and they have a need for repentance and a willingness to work on inner healing and save the marriage then it is your duty to forgive them. Accountability = rebuilding trust with your spouse. Both husband and wife need to work at this. The cheater needs to be accountable and the one who did not cheat needs to accept and trust spouse again. We can't do this without putting God FIRST in our lives. Managing emotions = It's normal to have strong emotions after finding out your spouse had an affair, but at some point in time those emotions need to be dealt with through forgiveness and accountability. The truth is you will never forget and there will be times that the pain will come back into your emotional bank but that doesn't mean to keep throwing stones at your repentant spouse. Self Healing and Marriage Restoration = Marriage sanctified and blessed because you have restored yourselves and marriage to God. We cover
these issues and more in How to Forgive a
Cheating Spouse. Perhaps
you are the one who cheated on your spouse and are seeking to be
forgiven so you can move on with your life and marriage. The root of the
problem is we need to give our lives to God Perhaps
you are the one who cheated on your spouse and are seeking to be
forgiven so you can move on with your life and marriage. The root of the
problem is we need to give our lives to God for inner healing. We all
need inner healing at some point in our lives. If you have not yet given
over your burdens to God than let this ebook encourage you to do so. Most
people don't know that marriage
belongs to God? They believe marriage is created for their own
happiness and selfish desires, but that is not the way God designed
marriage to be? God designed marriage for couples to serve one another
in real love. This is your purpose for marriage. Not until
couples start working together to bring the roles of marriage to the
table can marriage be restored. Wives
cheat because they feel intimately and emotionally separated from their
husbands. Husbands cheat because they feel intimately and emotionally
unattached to their wives. Who or what is causing the emotional bonds of
marriage to break? Couples do it to themselves by NOT managing marriage
according to its Creator!! We
Have To Change Our Perspective In
the summer of 2010, on the CBS evening news, they called the prevalence
of adultery happening in marriage today as the “Tiger Woods
Syndrome”. Do you see how
the world views immorality? Of course you really cannot expect these big
time newscaster’s to say that the adultery
pandemic that is wrecking havoc on marriage today is because of
Godlessness—they might get fired! Oh no, they have a script they must
read and read it they do! The
news broadcast went on to say that 80% of all marriages will be affected
by adultery, by either one or both spouses at some time in the lifetime
of the marriage. Is this
surprising to you? Well, it is not to us because we know what it
takes to restore a bad marriage. Frank and I have
already been there and done that. Yes,
it is true that someone who has trouble keeping his or her marriage bed
pure has an addiction and it can very well be called a syndrome, but
what causes the addiction or the syndrome? To fix the root
of the problem the addicted individual needs to seek inner
healing, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—they need to fix
themselves. No one can do that for them. They
have to want to do that for themselves! Sex therapy is not going to
repair years of wrong thinking and depravity within the heart and mind
of an individual. I wrote this eBook in the effort to help YOU understand and the cheating spouse understand what YOU BOTH NEED to do for restoring your marriage. You can do it God's way by applying the encouragement and advice from this eBook into your personal life and marriage, or you can do it your way. It's up to you. God Saves Marriages Some people think that we have some kind of quick magic to make marriage all better, but we can only listen, encourage, and guide you in the direction that we know is best for your marriage according to biblical principles. But you have to do the work!! It is by your efforts, putting God and your marriage first and working towards being the loving spouse God created you to be for each other that brings marital blessings. Only God can save marriage from adultery! We
need God!
Heaven Ministries offers
tons of biblical based advice to arm you with the knowledge you need to
heal yourself and restore your marriage, just like this ebook we have
written. It's your greatest tool for getting your marriage where it
belongs. Use all of our materials to assist you in your journey.
You may also email us (Frank or Angie) at anytime you need one-on-one
counseling. We will also counsel couples together peace, PS... God
wants us to be rich in love, and healthy in our bodies and minds, but
adultery and fornication cause us to be poor in love and sick in our
bodies and minds. Do you see then, WHY
God wants us to avoid adultery and fornication? Both will take away
our health and wealth! Now
then, my sons listen to me; Proverbs
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Forgiveness and Love You
Can Forgive and Love a Cheating Spouse Does
Your Spouse Not Deserve Forgiveness? How
Many Times Should We Forgive Husband Committed Adultery With a Close Friend and I Can’t Forgive! Trust and Accountability Adulterer
Needs to Repent Trusting
Spouse After Adultery Is All About Accountability 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage Managing Emotions Angry
After Spouse Commits Adultery I
Don’t Feel Like Forgiving my Cheating Husband Yet My Cheating Spouse Wants a Divorce? What Does Scripture Really Say? Inner Healing and Marriage Restoration Should
I Let Him Go or Should I Fight for the Love of my Husband? Healing
Steps After Spouse Commits Adultery Exposing
The Pandemic of Adultery Why
Would My Spouse Keep Cheating Over and Over Again? The Scripture That Has Been Misinterpreted by the Churches
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How to Forgive and 
