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Marriage,
Divorce and Remarriage I
know of two couples personally who got married at a young age and then
went through tremendous trials and troubles in their marriage, and for
one reason or another they ended up divorcing. After a time, and finding
their way in life, after even more trials, they ended up remarrying each
other again. Remarriage
to the man or woman you first married is more prevalent than you would
think. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to have the knowledge
beforehand of knowing you will remarry your spouse, so you could skip
the divorce part of it, work on the marriage and stay married? After
I analyzed these now quite happy remarriages, I have come to the
conclusion that with the correct knowledge, divorce can be skipped and
shouldn’t even be an option. In one of the cases mentioned above, the
marriage was greatly disturbed by the presence of an alcoholic. And
neither partner had come to accept Christ for their life. Several
years later when he got sober and mentally healthier, and she discovered
the power of God in her life, they remarried and the marriage is doing
great. The couple above is
my sister and brother in law. They have been remarried now for over ten
years. I do not see divorce again in the future.
In
the other case, the couple was again, very young and quite immature.
The problems of the marriage were too much stress for them to
handle with such undeveloped intentions, besides they just did not have
the basis for a solid foundation going for the marriage, and they ended
up divorcing. Several years later they rediscovered one another, now
mature in their age, both believers in Jesus Christ, they reunited in
marriage. And the marriage is flourishing. I
believe that more and more divorced couples could rediscover one another
again and remarry. Here’s why. When we get married, we bring baggage
with us. We don’t leave it at mom and dads house or the dorm we once
lived in. No, the baggage comes right along with us. Maybe it is
addiction or predisposition to addiction, or maybe it is plain out
selfishness, or maybe it is emotional retardation. Whatever the baggage
is, it doesn’t matter. The
point is, whatever baggage we bring into the marriage, we can learn from
it with our spouse, or we can give up, impede growth and divorce. The
problem with that is we still have the baggage and it will come along
with us into all of our relationships until we rid it from ourselves.
Past baggage is not who we are it is only a part of the hurdles in life
that we need to grow out from and learn by.
You can jump the hurdles of baggage, believe me. Sometimes
the pain of baggage really hurts deep and sometimes we suffer through
our tribulations onto the next trial. But here is the answer, as simple
as it may seem. With God
all things are possible. And with God and a sincere belief and complete
trust in the Son of God as our Savior, we can get through our problems
of suffering and pain. Yes, it will hurt, but we will get through them. Let
me ask you something. If you knew that you would be remarrying your
spouse five or ten years later anyway, would you get a divorce? The
answer to that is probably not. You would work on the marriage through
any means that worked, wouldn’t you? Knowing
that God wants us to stay married to our first love and knowing that He
will give us the resources and strength to work on the difficulties of
marriage, should give some of you a second chance in your heart to
repent, forgive, and work on yourself and marriage. Skip divorce all
together! Who needs it anyway? Why put you and the children through such
turmoil and suffering of divorce when God has given you the ability to
work through your trials and tribulations?
Jump over those hurdles with God! |