How to Carry Around The Right
Attitude For Your Marriage
by Angie Lewis
Did you know that your
attitude could make or break your marriage? It’s true! Your attitude tells you
what to do in certain situations and how to behave with certain issues in your
marriage. Are you carrying around the right attitude for your marriage? This
article will explore the top five reasons why you might be carrying around the
“not so right attitude”.
- Do
you have a positive attitude about God? Attitudes reflect what you feel
about God. Meaning your whole outlook on life can be transformed
into a positive experience if you have a deep and meaningful relationship
with your Creator. You do this
by getting to know Him and by “wanting” to understand God’s wisdom
filled ways more than your ways.
You
ought to be loving God with all of your heart, mind and soul and God will give
you the faith and confidence you need to be loving and compassionate to your
spouse, friends, family, and associates.
That’s
all about it! A simple exchange takes place between you and God. When you trust
in Him, He’ll then give you the wisdom you need for your life and marriage.
- Do
you let others dictate what your attitude will be? Many of us do. We listen
to the negative attitudes of others and it rubs off on us.
This is what happens in marriage when couples become entangled in a
heated argument.
These
kinds of arguments usually don’t get anywhere because they are being played
off with bad attitudes. Your spouse
says something negative about you and you in turn look for something bad to say
about them. What needs to be done is to start thinking positive about God in
your life and marriage, and your negative attitude will vanish from your mind!
- Is
your attitude in marriage consistent with your actions? In other words, your
mind and heart must know, see, and feel the same way, not in contradiction
to each other or you will come off as a hypocrite.
If you try and be something
that you are not, it will eventually come out in your actions. Your heart has to
feel what you say, and you mind must know what it is your heart wants.
Otherwise, you might speak things that are not true to your spouse and
come off as hypocritical with them.
This happens because you
are getting the wrong messages sent to you by the culture of society. The
culture of today believes it is ok to lie to your spouse and to commit adultery,
but what does your heart say? We need to put 100% attitude into our marriage by
loving our marriage with all our heart, mind and soul.
The same thing is true with
our attitude about God. He wants us to love him not just with our mind, but with
our heart and soul too.
These people honor me with
their lips, but their hearts are far from me.
They worship me in vain;
their teachings are but rules taught by men.
Matthew 15:8-9 (Where is the relationship?)
- Is
your attitude about your marriage causing you to sin? Are your thoughts and
feelings getting in the way of your actions? Have you taken your eyes off
the spiritual Christ for your marriage? Or maybe you “need” the
spiritual Christ for your marriage.
To see your marriage in the
positive light, and to understand why some things happen the way they do, or why
you might feel a certain way all comes down to what you believe is right and
good for your marriage.
All of these things take
the right attitude to be able to understand them with the spiritual clarity they
deserve. The right attitude isn’t afraid to love God wholly.
The right attitude is not afraid to be humble and meek in front of
others. The right attitude is the spiritually happy attitude.
If you do not trust God for
the guidance and that your marriage needs, who are you going to trust? Yourself?
Society? Culture? What do they know? Where does their judgment for “your
marriage” come from?
God wants you to love him
enough that you will build your marriage upon His foundation of wisdom and
truth.
Therefore, everyone who
hears these words of mind and puts them into practice is like a wise man who
built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds
blew and beat against the house; yet it did not fall, because it had its
foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not
put them into practice is alike a foolish man who built his house on sand. The
rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house,
and it fell with a great crash. Matthew 7:24-27
- Do
you know how to recognize God’s positive results in your marriage?
A good tree always bares
good fruit, which becomes noticeably apparent to everyone.
When you finally give up “your way” for “God’s way” your
attitude begins to change, and you will start to feel better about your self.
You become a tree of abundance for your marriage.
Your whole outlook and
position in the marriage will transform into an optimistic and constructive way
of thinking. This happens because you have trusted in God for the care of your
marriage. Your marriage now stands on the foundation called the rock. The rain
and winds came, and blew dangerously against your house, but your attitude saved
it from falling.
- Do
you know how to keep allowing God’s life force in your marriage? Never
lose sight of who you are. You are a child of God and God is your source,
not society nor culture but The Omnipotent God! Open your eyes and start
seeing with the wisdom that God has given you.
- Imitate
Christ’s forgiving attitude
- Let
God’s love guide your life
- Let
the peace of Jesus rule in your heart
- Keep
God’s word in your heart at all times
This
is the wisdom Gods children inherit when they have trusted in Him. Your positive
attitude and outlook on life can now love God with all your heart, mind and
soul. And because you have shown
you love God by trusting in Him, he has given you the spiritually positive
attitude for your marriage.
Therefore
as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with
compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other
and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the
Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all
together in perfect unity. Colossians
3:12-14
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Copyright
2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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