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What
Men Need From Their Wives
by
Angie Lewis
Heaven Ministries
1. A man doesn’t like to be rejected
sexually. Men have a sexual drive that when ignored can want him to turn to
other means for gratification. Married women should always be there for their
husband’s even when they don’t feel like it. This is not out of duty or
responsibility, but out of love for the man you married. A man needs a woman to
want him.
The wife’s body does not belong to her
alone but also to her husband. In the same way the husband’s body does not
belong to him alone but also to his wife. Don’t deprive each other except by
mutual consent and for a time, so you may devote yourself to prayer. Then come
together again so Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control.
1 Corinthians 7:4-5
2. A man does not want to be dominated
by a woman. When a wife takes the helm and controls situations and state of
affairs in the home and marriage, a husband becomes less likely to want to get
involved or do anything at all. This
is why some husband’s just go ahead and let their wife’s tell them what to
do, it is much easier to let her take control than to constantly argue, fuss,
and fight. But this is not right.
Why do you think men complain about
taking out the garbage? Think about it for a minute. It is demeaning, as if that
is all he can do. But a man’s job is to be the spiritual leader, provider,
protector, and authority of the home. We shouldn’t be in such a hurry to
undermine our husband’s position. Give it back to your husband where it
belongs. He needs to take the lead in the home.
A wise and Christ honoring husband will
not take advantage of his wife. And a wise Christ honoring wife will not try and
undermine her husband’s position.
If you do not honor and love Jesus
Christ than I suppose this scripture does not apply to you.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the
Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the
Church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the Church submits to
Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians
4:22-24
3. A man does not want to be belittled,
criticized, or treated as a child. Why would a wife belittle her husband? It
goes back to why she feels the need to control everything in the marriage. Some
women think their husband’s can’t do anything right, or as good as she can
do it, and so treat them with contempt. The problem is, many women want things
done their way and don’t give their husband’s a chance to do anything.
Most men because of being treated in
such a fashion end up releasing their negative emotions and frustrations through
outside means. Ladies, if your husband is cold and distant with you, and
you’re not sure why, it could be the way you are treating him. A man needs to
be treated like a man, and if his manhood is constantly undermined by a nagging
and controlling wife then he isn’t going to stick around and keep taking it.
Let your man feel good about who he is
by praising him for his efforts and accomplishments. A man needs to be admired
by his woman, plain and simple. As his wife you should be looking for ways to
make him feel good about the man he is.
If you keep on biting and devouring each
other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. Galatians 5:15
4. A man doesn’t want a woman who
can’t cook. One way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Men like to eat
good tasty food every single day. As the cook in the home, we wives should also
make sure that the food we do cook is healthful as well. We want our husband’s
to enjoy the meal but we also want him to be full of energy and feeling well
physically. It is our job to take control of what our husband eats and serve him
tasty home cooked healthy meals.
5. A man doesn’t want a woman who
clings to him and won’t give him space and freedom with his friends. We all
need and want balance in our life. One way to get that balance is for husband
and wife to have a friend or hobby to enjoy their time with once in awhile.
Some women feel deprived or jealous when
a husband goes out with his friends. She
wants him to spend his spare time with her. If a man has taken care of his
responsibilities in the home and his wife doesn’t need him for anything, he
should be given the freedom to go play golf, hunt or whatever it is he does.
Come on ladies, don’t cling to him like a puppy dog, men hate that. Let
him go have some fun on his own. Believe me, when he comes home, he will be a
happier man.
6. Men don’t like want women who have
foul mouths and behave like one of the guys.
Men don’t want to compete with the woman in their life on any level,
especially in the manhood area. A man has usually been with the guys all day at
work, and he needs to come home to a beautiful feminine wife. Be there for him,
ladies, show him what you got in the feminine department. He’ll be glad he
came home! Be lovely, kind, and affectionate, even if he comes home with a bad
attitude. This is where you can take control of the marriage by giving yourself
to your husband.
Instead, it should be that of your inner
self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth
in God’s sight 1 Peter 3:4
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Copyright © 2006 Heaven Ministries ~ Angie Lewis
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