Holy Matrimony vs. Marriage discuses the difference between
an Ecclesiastical ceremony, with no legal significance, and that legally binding
covenant with the state called Marriage.
There are many ways in which a legal system
increases its limited authority but it is most complete through the consent of
the individual. In China they have "the one child contract." If you
sign it, you will become eligible for many of the benefits offered by the
government, such as free medical care, schooling and better paying jobs. If
later the mother becomes pregnant and refuses to abort the child the family
becomes responsible for paying for all the expense of the second child, paying
back all the benefits they received for the first child and often suffer the
loss of their present employed position and pay scale. In America the pressure
to abort a child is often much more subtle. The same dealt subtly with our kindred, and
evil entreated our fathers, so that they cast out their young children [fetus]
1, to the end they might not live22
. (Acts 7:19)
If children survive the financial and social
pressure to be aborted, they must still overcome the strain of the mental,
spiritual and contractual pressures society shall place upon them.
Unfortunately, society as a whole is continuously
degrading the family as a unit through economic, social and legal means even
though the family is the foundation from which the society is built. If we want better people to make a better
world, then we will have to begin where people are made --- in the family.3
Economic pressures may burden and exhaust the
parents. Social Security often removes the grandparents from the family unit.
School systems distance the parents from the mental development of the children
as they are molded outside the family unit. The media and socially applied peer
pressures add their own unique and varied distortions to the child's
development. "When the foundation fails all
fails."
The few parents who feel compelled to protect
their children from exposure to these pressures or simply feel a sense of
responsibility to raise their children directly, often find their way blocked by
a legal system that seems to be usurping the authority of the parents by
assuming custody of children in the name of "The Law." Yet, is it
usurpation or have we unwittingly waived custody of our children by some
previous legal contract or consensual agreement.
In Bouvier's definition of law we find stated
that:
"3. An analysis of the science of law presents a view, first, of the
rights of persons, distinguishing them as natural persons and artificial person,
or body politic or corporations. These rights are deemed either absolute, as
relating to the enjoyment of personal security, liberty, and of private property
or, on the other hand, as relative, - that is, arising out of the relation in
which several persons stand. These relations are either, first, public or
political, viz.: the relation of magistrate and people; or, second, are private,
as the relations of master and servant, husband and wife, parent and child,
guardian and ward, to which might be added relations arising out private
contracts, such as partnerships, principal and agent, and the like."
"8. Law, as distinguished from equity, denotes the doctrine and the
procedure of the common law of England and America, from which equity is a
departure. In respect to the ground of the authority of law, it is divided as
natural law, or the law of nature or of God, and positive law."4
"The union of a man and a woman is of
the law of nature.5
Here by these definitions and maxims we see
that the union of a man and woman is a relative, yet, private and natural
relationship; and as a natural relationship is subject to "natural
law," natural law being "divine will...in contradistinction to
positive law," positive law being that law "established, under human
sanctions." If we have identified these concepts properly it does seem that
the natural relation of Husband and Wife and its products, such as children
should be relatively free of any interference by government and so it should be
for, "Matrimony ought to be free."6
Let us look at the word, "marriage, as
distinguished from the agreement to marry and from the act of becoming
married." It "is the civil status of one man and one woman united in
law for the discharge to each other and the community of duties legally
incumbent on those whose association is found on the distinction of sex."8
First, it is clear that marriage is
distinguished, essentially different, from both the "agreement to
marry" and the "act of becoming married." Secondly, marriage is a
civil status. Civil is a word used in "contradistinction to military,
ecclesiastical, natural, or foreign; thus, we speak of a civil station, as
opposed to ...an ecclesiastical station" 9
It also explains that the obligations of the
man and woman are not merely to each other but also to the "community"
and that these civil duties are "legally incumbent." An incumbent is
then defined as, "A person who is in present possession of an office; one
who is legally authorized to discharge the duties of an office." 10
The words "person" and
"individual" are not synonymous. "Person" being defined as
"a man considered according to the rank he holds in society, with all the
right to which the place he holds entitles him, and the duties which it
imposes." 11
The word "individual" in the book
Language, found in the Volume Library, is treated as a word "frequently
misused" and clarifies its meaning with the statement, "The word
(individual) should not be used in the mere sense of person. The word is
correctly used in `Changes both in individuals and communities.'"
"Every person is a man, but not every
man a person,"12
A person by definition is legally bound and
connected to the community, while the individual seems to be equal to or on a
separate footing from the community. The individual is apparently not obligated
to the bureaucratic administration in the same degree as those in the legal
community. The administrative system has coined the phrase "an individual
person" or "natural person." As usual their attempt to alleviate
confusion seems to have done more to add to the chaos.
"Man is a term of nature; person, of
the civil law"13
So, today's Domestic Relationship of Marriage is
neither natural, remembering that the law of nature is "divine will,"
nor ecclesiastical, "distinguished from `civil' or `secular,'" 14
but it is civil.
As spoken of earlier, in Bouvier's, the
"private" relationships of "husband and wife, parent and child,
guardian and ward" are not the same as the "legal" relationship
granted by a Marriage license, which is clearly "public" such as
"the relation of the magistrate and people." The laws of nature are most perfect and
immutable; but the condition of human law is an unending succession, and there
is nothing in it which can continue perpetually. Human laws are born, live, and
die.15
A "Marriage license:" is "A
license or permission granted by public authority to persons who intend to
intermarry,...By statute it is made an essential prerequisite to the lawful
solemnization of the marriage."16 as
opposed to ecclesiastical solemnization.
It should be becoming clear that there is at
least two types of marriages and therefore at least two types of husband and
wife relationships.
"Marriage is often referred to as a
civil contract, but the emphasis in such a reference is not on the word
`contract' but upon the word `civil' as distinguished from ecclesiastical; since
there is religious freedom in this country a religious ceremony, and rules of
ecclesiastical organizations with regard to marriage have no legal significance
Though mutual assent is necessary to enter into a
marriage the marriage itself is a status or relationship rather than a
contract, the rights and obligations of the parties thereto being fixed by the
law instead of by the parties themselves. Hence marriages are not within the
provision of the United States Constitution forbidding a state to impair the
obligation of contracts.".17
In the first paragraph we see again that at
least one type of marriage is "civil" or "public" as
distinguished from another which may be "private,"
"ecclesiastical" or "natural." Ecclesiastical organizations
have "no legal significance" and therefore no civil effect.
This statement made by Clark sets a distinct
division between religious freedom and the absence of it. On the one side he
mentions religious freedom in relation to ecclesiastical marriage but it seems a
simple step to realize the reciprocal conclusion. If the ecclesiastical
authority to marry has no influence in the realm of legal marriages then a legal
marriage would then have no influence in the realm of ecclesiastical matrimony.
This principle applies also to the marriage between the legal churches and the
state and the state which established it. The legal church is not operating
under the religious freedom aspect of Law in America.
Religious freedom means freedom from dominion
over religious practices which should include the law established by religious
belief as well as rituals, ceremonies and customs. Religious practices are not
merely incantations, sprinkling of water and smoky rituals. Religious practices
includes almost every aspect of life itself.
However, a marriage performed by an
"ecclesiastical organization" should not be confused with a marriage
performed by today's churches which are incorporated entities18
of the state performing civil marriages as agents of the state. In most cases
churches will not marry any couple who has not obtained permission to marry,
through the purchase of a license, from the state prior to the ceremony. Almost
all marriages performed in these churches are performed by the authority vested
in those churches and ministers by the state in which they have agreed to act as
an agent. This makes the minister an officer of the state carrying out the
official duties of that state. Those marriage are not ecclesiastical because
they do have legal significance.
The word `church' in the New Testament is
translated from the Greek word `ekklesia' which comes from two words `ek'
meaning "out" and `kaleo' meaning to "call". Today's
incorporated churches are not marrying couples ecclesiastically but are calling
their people into an unequal civil relationship with the state.
Clark states that this civil marriage contract is
a "mutual assent." As is the case with all contracts there must be
mutual consent and valid consideration. In a natural joining of a man and a
woman as Husband and Wife there is a mutual consent and consideration, but if
one or both are persons and have a "legal status" and are obligated to
another, then there cannot be a valid consideration without the permission of
the one to whom the party is subject.
In old English law "Marriage is used in the
sense of `maritagium,' (qv) or the feudal right enjoyed by the lord or guardian
in chivalry of disposing of his ward in marriage." 19
This is also, in principal, how the word is
used today. To clarify this relationship of `lord and ward' we may consider
Clark's statement, "the rights and obligations of the parties thereto being
fixed by law instead of by the parties themselves," shows that it is the
third party known as the state that has the right to fix the extent of the
privileges and duties by law, which is more than an equal position to hold in
that three party relationship. The word law here refers to the legal system
which has already obtained or at least assumed that it has obtained a
jurisdictional authority over the parties by their consent, either before their
application for license (permission) or at the time of its public solemnization.
Marriage is also defined as that which
"signifies the act, ceremony or formal proceeding by which persons take
each other for husband and wife."20
Note the use of the word "persons"
and the lack of capitalization of the words "Husband and Wife." In the
same law dictionary the word "for" is defined as "instead
of" or "in place of."21
So the legal status of marriage by civil
authority is where you take each other, assenting into a civil relationship with
the state, not as Husband and Wife but "instead of" Husband and Wife
or in other words for husband and wife and children, wards of the state.
In 1906, the Supreme Court of Nebraska stated
that: "It (marriage) differs from all other contracts23
in its far-reaching consequences to the body politic itself, and for that
reason, in dealing with it or the status resulting therefrom, the state never
stands indifferent, but is always a party whose interest must be taken into
account."24
&nbs The state can and will always consider
itself a party in a civil marriage performed by its officers in accordance with
the duties and obligations imposed by the permitting authority, but it has no
jurisdictional authority over the natural matrimony by "divine will"
between two free and natural individuals. It is the previous connecting
contractual commitments to the legal society that bind a person's obedience to
the commands of that legal society.
Note, that a "common law marriage" is
simply when the state assumes and recognizes what did appear at first to be a
"Husband and Wife" relationship At Law to be in fact a solemnized
civil marriage of husband and wife and state in equity.
"A wife is not her own mistress,
but is under the power of her husband."26
According to the natural law and the common law,
"All things which are the wife's belong to the husband."27
Not because of any misguided assumption that she is inferior but because she
is one with her husband. It is understood in the natural law that the,
"Husband and Wife are considered one person in law."28
Even in the definition of Husband and Wife it
is called, "One of the great domestic relationships." That
relationship, "being that of a man and a woman lawfully joined in marriage,
by which, at common law, the legal existence of the wife is incorporated with
that of her husband."29
In other words it is a lawful joining of the woman's status to the man. "And they twain shall be one flesh: so
then they are no more twain, but one flesh." (Mark 10:8.)
This authority that a man holds at law over
his wife is not a problem to a good woman as long as the husband truly loves,
honors and cherishes her and she is as willing to humble herself to his will as
he is willing to humble himself to God's divine will. As with all contracts
there must be valid and mutual consideration. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your
own husbands, as unto the Lord.... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ
also loved the church, and gave himself for it;" (Ephesians 5:22,
25)
Despite the fact that the husband is to have
custody of his children the individual state governments and bureaucracies are
constantly claiming regulatory right and custody. Are these claims of the state
usurpations, without any basis in law, or is there an aspect to the relationship
of a husband and a wife that is shared by the state?
"And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children;
and said, Who [are] those with thee? And he said, The children which God hath
graciously given thy servant." (Genesis 33:5)
It was the custom that if a man and a woman
were married as Husband and Wife, then the husband had custody of the children
and held the wife's right to contract in a domestic trust.30
The common law also agrees with the natural law, for "at the common
law the father had an almost absolute right to the custody of his
children." 31
"So ought men to love their wives
as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself For no man ever yet
hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the
church:" (Ephesians 5: 28, 29)
When a daughter wished to marry, she would
obtain her father's permission and he in turn gave her in marriage. The son
would also gain permission from his father if he wished to continue to take his
father's name as his own. If the husband and wife are wards of the state then
their children must obtain permission to marry from their parent's master.
Unless they become adopted by a father who is not subject to the jurisdiction of
their parent's master.
"Fundamental, Bible believing people
do not have the right to indoctrinate their children in their religious beliefs,
because we, the state, are preparing them for the year 2000, when America will
be part of a one-world global society and their children will not fit in." 32
Who is the father from whom permission should
be obtained? By and under whose authority should a man and woman be joined
together in the ceremony of Holy Matrimony?
And what concord hath the Christ with
Belial? or what part hath he that beleiveth with an infidel? And what agreement
hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God: as
God hath said, I will dwell in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be
my people.
Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye
separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean (thing); and I will receive
you.And I will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters,
saith the Lord Almighty. (II Corinthian 6:15-18)
It is, more often than not, the remedy and
will of the public magistrates33 that
husbands and wives under their jurisdiction divorce. It is the magistrate that
decides the fate of the children in his custody in contradistinction to the law
of nature and the common law.
And Jesus answered and said unto them,
For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning
of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave
his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one
flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath
joined together, let not man put asunder. (Mark 10:5,9)
The implications of all this can seem to
create confusion. We should see that neither a bride nor groom can obtain clear
permission34 to marry from a father who
has assented to the same restrictive legal civil status that they are trying to
avoid. And the state by its very nature cannot offer permission to the God
fearing couple to marry as a Natural Husband and Wife. These problems can seem
to compound as we discover that no minister or priest is available to conduct a
purely ecclesiastical ceremony which would exclude the state and its
authoritarian and bureaucratic legal controls.
Be ye not unequally yoked together with
unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and
what communion hath light with darkness? (II Corinthian 6:14)
Why should we give authority to the state over
that which God has ordained? If we have faith in the Lord's blessing and
authority why do we also ask for the government's blessing and authority?
Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power
but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. (Romans 13:1)
This is probably one of the most frequently
repeated quotes from the Bible that is used by men holding positions of
authority in societies today. If there is no power but of God and it is He that
ordains the powers that are truly in authority then what criteria does God use
to establish "the higher powers."
Are we subject to a higher power or are we making
the state a higher power by obtaining a marriage and or other licenses? If
matrimony, through the Law of Nature and the Common Law of the Land, is the
domain of God and our children are His gifts then why would we turn our family
and ourselves over to the civil authority of the State? Is that not like
rendering unto Caesar the things that are God's?
The Bible mentions the word covenant over 300
times. It tells us many stories of the binding of man to man and man to God. It
is made very clear that God requires the fulfillment of our agreements and
compliance with our words.
Jesus has told us to let our yes be yes. Does he
want us to enter into covenants, even quasi covenants, with those who do not
follow the spirit of God and His Laws?
Why should we ask others for permission to do
that which God has ordained? Is God's permission and blessing not enough?
For as many as are led by the Spirit of
God, they are sons of God. For you have not received the spirit of bondage again
to fear; but ye have received the spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba,
Father. (Romans 8:14,15)
Does God want us to give custody of our
children to the State? Does He want you to put your Husband and Wife
relationship under the authority of a system that prefers and compels divorce as
the most common solution to marital strife?
Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth
another hath fulfilled the law. (Romans 13:8)
If God has given us the Holy Relationship of
Matrimony, He therefore has dominion and authority over that relationship. So
why should we render unto the state a legal authority over that relationship
which rightfully belongs to God?
Then saith he unto them, Render therefore unto Caesar the things which
are Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's. (Mt 22:21- Mr
12:17 - Lu 20:25)
If you are married in Florida, England or
Kuwait you are considered married in Oregon and everywhere else in the world, so
why is not the Kingdom of God acceptable? In fact it is. An ecclesiastical
marriage is a lawful marriage that offers no equitable or legal benefits,
obligations or jurisdiction.
It would seem that in this life we may choose in
many ways who we would have over us. So, is the choice not ours?
Jesus answered, Thou sayest that I am a king. (John18:37)
If we have been joined together in the name of
God and by His authority then why must we call on any other name or authority?
If we call on another will they assume a power and authority that will take away
or parental rights?
"Those who educate are more to be
honored than those who bear the children.
The latter give them only life; the former teach them the art of living."35
Should you call upon another just to gain the
financial and worldly benefits of a legal marriage?
And it shall come to pass, [that] whosoever shall call on the name of
the Lord shall be saved. (Ac 2:21)
Should we turn over the custody of the
children that the LORD God has given us to a civil authority that does not
follow Christ?
What therefore God hath joined together,
let not man put asunder. (Matthew 19:6).
Are there other ways that we are going under
authorities of men by making covenants?
And they rejected his statutes, and his covenant that he made with
their fathers, and his testimonies which he testified against them; and they
followed vanity, and became vain, and went after the heathen that [were] round
about them, [concerning] whom the LORD had charged them, that they should not do
like them. (2Ki 17:15)
Have we returned to the bondage of Egypt
and the covenants of Rome and the spirit of Babylon?
And if we have entered into covenants with
strange gods can we return to the LORD God?
But I will for their sakes remember the covenant of their ancestors,
whom I brought forth out of the land of Egypt in the sight of the heathen, that
I might be their God: I [am] the LORD. (Le 26:45)
FOOT NOTES
Return 1 Strong's No. 1025 brephos {bref'-os}of
uncertain affin.; n n AV - babe (5) - child (1) - infant (1) - young child (1)
[8]1a) an unborn child, embryo, a fetus 1b) a new-born child, an infant, a babe Return 2 Strong's No. 2225 zoogoneo {dzo-og-on-eh'-o}from
the same as 2226 and a derivative of 1096; vb AV - preserve (1) - live (1) [2]1)
to bring forth alive 2) to give life 3) to preserve alive Return 3 Braud's 2nd Enc. by J.M Braud. Return 4 Bouvier's vol II. Return 5 Conjuctio mariti et femina est
de jure natur‘. Return 6 Matrimonia debent esse libra.
Halkers, Max. 86; 2 Kent, Comm. 102. Return 7 Jura natur‘ sunt immutabilia.
Branch, Princ.; Oliver Forms, 56. Return 8 Black's 3rd Ed. p. 1163. Return 9 Civil. Black's 3rd ed. p.331. Return 10 State v McCollister, 11 Ohio,
50; State v. Blackmore, 104 Mo. 340, 15 S.W. 960. Black's 3rd Ed. p.947. Return 11 Black's 3rd. Ed. p. 1355. Return 12 Omnis persona est homo, sed
non vicissim. Return 13 Homo vocabulum est; persona
juris civilitis. Calvinus, Lex. Return 14 Ecclesiastical. Black's 3rd
Ed. p.640. Return 15 Leges natur‘ perfectissim‘
sunt et immutaviles; humani vero juris conditio semper in infinitum decurrit, et
nihil est in co quod perpetuo stare possit. Leges human‘ nascuntur, vivunt,
moriuntur.7 Coke, 25. Return 16 Black's 5th Ed. Return 17 Clark's Summary of American
Law. Chapt I .2. The marriage status or relationship. pp. 140. Return 18 Incorporation...the formation
of a legal or political body... In civil law. The union of one domain to
another. Black's 3rd p. 946. And what concord hath Christ with Belial?...2Co
6:15 Return 19 Black's 3rd. Ed. p. 1164. Return 20 Black's 3rd. Ed. p. 1164. Return 21 Black's 3rd Ed. p. 795. Return 22 Uxor et filius sunt nomina
natur‘. 4 Broom, Works. 350. Return 23 Sample bill passed inorder to
comply with US Code 42, Section 666. "Bill 532 1997/6/10 Part I Documents
Requiring Social Security Numbers for Use in Child Support Enforcement SEC.
4."Section 20-1-220. No marriage license may be issued unless a written
application shall have been filed with the probate judge, or in Darlington and
Georgetown Counties the clerk of court who issues the license, at least
twenty-four hours before its issuance. The application must be signed by both of
the contracting parties and shall contain the same information as required for
the issuing of the license including the social security numbers of the
contracting parties." As a consequence, In South Carolina, a couple cannot
("contract to") get married without supplying a Social Security
number. Return 24 Willits v. Willits, 107
N.W.379,380. Return 25 - William H. Seawell,
professor of education at the University of Virginia Return 26 Uxor non est sui Juris, sed
sub potestate viri. Coke, 3d Inst. 108. Return 27 Omnia qu‘ sunt uxoris sunt
ipsius viri. Coke, Litt. 299. Return 28 Vir et uxor consentur in lege
una persona. Coke, Litt. 112; Jenk. Cent. Cas. 27. Return 29 Black's 3rd.Ed.p.910. Return 30 In law he may also have
custody of his domestic servants. Return 31 Clark's Summary of American
Law, Domestic Relations and Persons Chapt.IV, Sec. 26. Return 32 Peter Hoagland, Nebraska State
Senator and Humanist said in 1983: Return 33 The New Testament word God is
translated from the Greek word theos which figuratively means "a
magistrate" or literally judge or ruling judge. Return 34 That which bars those who have
contracted will bar their successors also. Quod ipsis, qui contraxerunt, abstat;
et successoribus eorum obstabit. Dig. 50.17.29. Return 35 - Carolyn Warner, former
Superintendent of Public Instruction in Arizona
END OF FOOTNOTES
if you would like more information about the Holy
Matrimony Certificates for Marriage and the
Solemn Covenant of Holy Matrimony
5
Reasons Why Christians
Should Not Obtain aState
Marriage License
By
Pastor Matt Trewhella
Every
year thousands of Christians amble down to their local county courthouse
and obtain a marriage license from the State in order to marry their
future spouse. They do this unquestioningly. They do it because their
pastor has told them to go get one, and besides, "everybody else gets
one." This pamphlet attempts to answer the question - why should we
not get one?
1.
The definition of a "license" demands that we not obtain one to
marry. Black’s Law Dictionary defines "license" as, "The
permission by competent authority to do an act which without such
permission, would be illegal." We need to ask ourselves- why
should it be illegal to marry without the State’s permission? More
importantly, why should we need the State’s permission to participate in
something which God instituted (Gen. 2:18-24)? We should not need the
State’s permission to marry nor should we grovel before state officials
to seek it. What if you apply and the State says "no"? You must
understand that the authority to license implies the power to prohibit. A
license by definition "confers a right" to do something. The
State cannot grant the right to marry. It is a God-given right.
2.
When you marry with a marriage license, you grant the State jurisdiction
over your marriage. When you marry with a marriage license, your marriage
is a creature of the State. It is a corporation of the State! Therefore,
they have jurisdiction over your marriage including the fruit of your
marriage. What is the fruit of your marriage? Your children and every
piece of property you own. There is plenty of case law in American
jurisprudence which declares this to be true. In 1993, parents were upset
here in Wisconsin because a test was being administered to their children
in the government schools which was very invasive of the family’s
privacy. When parents complained, they were shocked by the school
bureaucrats who informed them that their children were required to take
the test by law and that they would have to take the test because they
(the government school) had jurisdiction over their children. When parents
asked the bureaucrats what gave them jurisdiction, the bureaucrats
answered, "your marriage license and their birth certificates."
Judicially, and in increasing fashion, practically, your state marriage
license has far-reaching implications.
3.
When you marry with a marriage license, you place yourself under a body of
law which is immoral. By obtaining a marriage license, you place yourself
under the jurisdiction of Family Court which is governed by unbiblical and
immoral laws. Under these laws, you can divorce for any reason. Often, the
courts side with the spouse who is in rebellion to God, and castigates the
spouse who remains faithful by ordering him or her not to speak about the
Bible or other matters of faith when present with the children. As a
minister, I cannot in good conscience perform a marriage which would place
people under this immoral body of laws. I also cannot marry someone with a
marriage license because to do so I have to act as an agent of the State!
I would have to sign the marriage license, and I would have to mail it
into the State. Given the State’s demand to usurp the place of God and
family regarding marriage, and given it’s unbiblical, immoral laws to
govern marriage, it would be an act of treason for me to do so.
4.
The marriage license invades and removes God-given parental authority.
When you read the Bible, you see that God intended for children to have
their father’s blessing regarding whom they married. Daughters were to
be given in marriage by their fathers (Dt. 22:16; Ex. 22:17; I Cor. 7:38).
We have a vestige of this in our culture today in that the father takes
his daughter to the front of the altar and the minister asks, "Who
gives this woman to be married to this man?" Historically, there was
no requirement to obtain a marriage license in colonial America. When you
read the laws of the colonies and then the states, you see only two
requirements for marriage. First, you had to obtain your parents
permission to marry, and second, you had to post public notice of the
marriage 5-15 days before the ceremony. Notice you had to obtain your
parents permission. Back then you saw godly government displayed in that
the State recognized the parents authority by demanding that the parents
permission be obtained. Today, the all-encompassing ungodly State demands
that their permission be obtained to marry. By issuing marriage licenses,
the State is saying, "You don’t need your parents permission, you
need our permission." If parents are opposed to their child’s
marrying a certain person and refuse to give their permission, the child
can do an end run around the parents authority by obtaining the State’s
permission, and marry anyway. This is an invasion and removal of God-given
parental authority by the State.
5.
When you marry with a marriage license, you are like a polygamist. From
the State’s point of view, when you marry with a marriage license, you
are not just marrying your spouse, but you are also marrying the State.
The
most blatant declaration of this fact that I have ever found is a brochure
entitled "With This Ring I Thee Wed." It is found in county
courthouses across Ohio where people go to obtain their marriage licenses.
It is published by the Ohio State Bar Association. The opening paragraph
under the subtitle "Marriage Vows" states, "Actually, when
you repeat your marriage vows you enter into a legal contract. There are
three parties to that contract. 1.You; 2. Your husband or wife, as the
case may be; and 3. the State of Ohio."
See,
the State and the lawyers know that when you marry with a marriage
license, you are not just marrying your spouse, you are marrying the
State! You are like a polygamist! You are not just making a vow to your
spouse, but you are making a vow to the State and your spouse. You
are also giving undue jurisdiction to the State.
When
Does the State Have Jurisdiction Over a Marriage?
God
intended the State to have jurisdiction over a marriage for two reasons -
1). in the case of divorce, and 2). when crimes are committed i.e.,
adultery, bigamy. etc. Unfortunately, the State now allows divorce for any
reason, and it does not prosecute for adultery.
In
either case, divorce or crime, a marriage license is not necessary for the
courts to determine whether a marriage existed or not. What is needed are
witnesses. This is why you have a best man and a maid of honor. They
should sign the marriage certificate in your family Bible, and the wedding
day guest book should be kept.
Marriage
was instituted by God, therefore it is a God-given right. According to
Scripture, it is to be governed by the family, and the State only has
jurisdiction in the cases of divorce or crime.
History
of Marriage Licenses in America
George
Washington was married without a marriage license. Abraham Lincoln was
married without a marriage license. So, how did we come to this place in
America where marriage licenses are issued?
Historically,
all the states in America had laws outlawing the marriage of blacks and
whites. In the mid-1800’s, certain states began allowing interracial
marriages or miscegenation as long as those marrying received a license
from the state. In other words they had to receive permission to do an act
which without such permission would have been illegal.
Blacks
Law Dictionary points to this historical fact when it defines
"marriage license" as, "A license or permission granted by
public authority to persons who intend to intermarry."
"Intermarry" is defined in Black’s Law Dictionary as,
"Miscegenation; mixed or interracial marriages."
Give
the State an inch and they will take a 100 miles (or as one elderly woman
once said to me "10,000 miles.") Not long after these licenses
were issued, some states began requiring all people who marry to obtain a
marriage license. In 1923, the Federal Government established the Uniform
Marriage and Marriage License Act (they later established the Uniform
Marriage and Divorce Act). By 1929, every state in the Union had adopted
marriage license laws.
What
Should We Do?
Christian
couples should not be marrying with State marriage licenses, nor should
ministers be marrying people with State marriage licenses. Some have said
to me, "If someone is married without a marriage license, then they
aren’t really married." Given the fact that states may soon
legalize same-sex marriages, we need to ask ourselves, "If a man and
a man marry with a State marriage license, and a man and woman marry
without a State marriage license - who’s really married? Is it the two
men with a marriage license, or the man and woman without a marriage
license? In reality, this contention that people are not really married
unless they obtain a marriage license simply reveals how Statist we are in
our thinking. We need to think biblically.
You
should not have to obtain a license from the State to marry someone
anymore than you should have to obtain a license from the State to be a
parent, which some in academic and legislative circles are currently
pushing to be made law.
When
I marry a couple, I always buy them a Family Bible which contains birth
and death records, and a marriage certificate. We record the marriage in
the Family Bible. What’s recorded in a Family Bible will stand up as
legal evidence in any court of law in America. Both George Washington and
Abraham Lincoln were married without a marriage license. They simply
recorded their marriages in their Family Bibles. So should we.
(Pastor
Trewhella has been marrying couples without marriage licenses for ten
years. Many other pastors also refuse to marry couples with State marriage
licenses.